- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Well this is a bit overdue but I was due Feb 19th and had a membrane sweep 39w1d friday the 13th. I was having some pretty serious back problems and was just in pain in general from the weight of my stomach so we thought ok… lets just give me an edge so hopefully I dont go overdue. She said she was “pretty harsh” so I should expect something to happen within a few days because my cervix was soft and I was 2cm. DH and I were almost finished Dexter on netflix and were determined to finish bfr Dear Daughter arrived so we were up until 2am that night and it was stupid because I KNEW in my gut something was going to happen and I should have went to bed early hahaha.
So 430am rolled around and I started having these contractions that were….pretty moderate in pain…I needed to get up out of bed and walk and breathe through it. The thing with a sweep tho is that sometimes you get false labor so I was prepared for it not to be “real” yet. I texted my doula and she said to test it by getting in the bath and if it was real it would keep going if not it should help to stop it. So I got in the bath for 2 hours (dh put on the spa music and made me food) and they did end up subsiding and when I got out I tried to just go back to sleep for a while but of COURSE I couldnt…I just rested basically.
Doula said to go about our day as normal (this was now valentines day) and of course we figured our plans for the evening were out lol. We hung out for a while at home but then in the afternoon I said lets go do something and take our mind off it so we went and picked out some curtains and ran errands. It was about 430 and I said ok…..I think we should stop in and have dinner now because I think something is gonna happen and once it does I wont be able to eat anything and lord knows how long I’ll be in labor for. So we went to this place Earls near our house and sure enough I started having these “pulsations”? It was about 5-530pm and we were sitting there and I started having VERY mild contractions basically just like annoying pms cramps, nothing like I had that morning so I thought ok whatever, I was still able to sit there and eat normally. The waitress said “oh when are you due/or whens the big day?” I said TONIGHT lol…she thought I was joking. We finish and DH wanted to stop somewhere but I said we better head home so I could rest. Like I said very very mild and not super close or anything….I figured this would go on for hours maybe even a day or 2 (from what I hear).
We get home and its about 645 and nothing really happening at this point so I say Im gonna lay down, amd DH says ya I should but Im gonna play one game of (insert name of online videogame)….. I lay down and about a half hour later at like 720 I felt this sensation and a burst/bubble of “warm” lol….. I RAN to the bathroom as my water started gushing and luckily I was wearing tightpants so it kinda held it in like a water balloon lol. Another massive gush and its now all over me and the floor. I yell for DH to bring me a towel and hes like OMG OMG. I call the doula and we figured we’d wait a while and see if I start getting contractions before she headed over/even thought about going to hospital….my doctor never talked to me about what was best (what they prefer) as water breaking bfr your there is “quite rare” so dont worry about it…HA ya right. So she said relax and eat something/drink something, so I went downstairs and bounced on the ball for a while and it was around 8pm they started…….
OH….MY….GAWD! There was no build up (as I expected contractins to start and progressively get worse)…. it was instant like 8-9 out of 10 pain and they started coming pretty fast say 5 min max apart some were closer. Told the doula to get her a$$ over and she came right away, I was in the shower and it wasnt doing CRAP for me.
It was soooo freaking painful I just remember thinking WTF I didnt think it would be like this. I was moaning and grabbing onto the shower door/walls which probably wasnt a good idea because its glass lol…. I was so afraid I was going to hulk pull it and a crack it. She arrived and brought a TENS machine to put on my back (thats like an electrode pulse thing thats supposed to help with pain management). Anywho it was helping a bit but more in a distraction kinda way? but it was still barely tolerable. I knew in my mind we would not be at home much longer and I wanted to scream get me to the hospital but she wanted to time my contractions for a half hour and just see… so she had me get into a few diff positions on the bed and DH and doula said “I was rocking it” and doing so well but I didnt feel like I was. I started sobbing near the end of the contractions cause it was just so horrible. She asked me if I was feeling pressure in my bum and to let her know asap if I did. (sidenote: we live literally 6 minutes from our driveway to the hospital parkinglot so we werent worried about time in that way)
I labored for about 30-45 minutes I wanna say at home and I knew I was farther along then I was going to expect to be because the pain was just so intense and started to feel something in my bum. It wasnt some crazy pressure but just “something”… like ok, if you really needed to go #2 (sorry tmi) and that feeling was rated a 10/10….I was only feeling like 1 or 2/10 in terms of “pressure”, but I told her and she said ok lets go NOW. At first bfr I mentioned the pressure she thought we had more time because the timing had slowed to like 8-9 min apart… BUT the pain was intensifying so she said sometimes the timing means bunk all.
I was in the back seat on all fours holding onto the back and just sobbing and breathing through contractions and yelling at DH to stop touching me lol. The contractions were coming fast now like just a few min apart, I think I had 2 or 3 by the time we got to the lot. They tried to get me out and I was having one, then another bfr i got to the elevator, another in it, another walking to the stairs we had to go up one flight to another elevator (she made me do the stairs as a test), another to the next elevator. Then another in the hallway I was holding onto railings for dear life, another down the hall and another at the checkin desk i thought I would rip out of the floor!
They got me into a triage room and checked me and sure freaking enough I was in transition and 8cm dilated!!!! WELL NO SH*T SHERLOCK
I had made it that far but I know my body and if this was going to go on much longer I wasnt gonna make it so I said I wanted the epi. They hooked me up to all the stuff you need but it may or may not happen as the anestisiologist was in emergency and I was so far along already…..they kept saying you can do it without and I was like NO NO I cant.
I think the contractions had hit me hard because there was no build up. I always thought they would start off and then slowly get more intense and that way you get a chance to sort of get used to the pain thats coming…not that I think you get used to it, but you know what I mean. Mine went from something I wouldnt even take a tylenol for like 20+ min apart that more or less stopped for 2 hours …to real active labor TRANSITION level pain….
anywho I get in and theyre hooking me up to all these IV’s and giving me the gas mask. The gas did help but I was still in more pain then I anticipated. They tried to get me to go to the bathroom to sit in diff positions like backwards on the toilet and on the yoga ball or in the shower and nothing was helping, it just made it worse. Surprisingly the most comfortable position was just plain old on the bed with it inclined up half way. I basically told everyone thats where I wanted to labor for the rest so pi$$ off lol.
This went on for about an hour and the contractions were so intense and so close together I basically started convulsing, just uncontrollably shaking down to my core. I assume it was the adrenaline. Thank god the angel of drugs finally showed 🙂 he came in and I swear I saw a halo shining around his head. There was a bit of a snag in getting it right away because my clinic hadnt sent my freakin pre-natal records to the hospital as they were supposed to at 36w, I was so ticked (he needed to know my platelette levels were etc…)
So it took like 20-30 minutes of a goose chase but they finally got my records it was like midnight now (no valentines baby), he was very fast and very nice to me. It took effect right away and he told me he gave me the good stuff haha. Funny enough I actually had mobility in my legs still, they were a bit numb but I could move them. I couldnt feel anything else. They checked me right after and said I was 10cm and wide open so I could push anytime or….have a little rest. I chose a rest as my body was just starting to calm down and stop shaking etc… My body relaxed and a huge gush of water came out. Anywho it was a great decision because even the doula said it was obvious my body needed to relax. It took a little while for my body to stop shaking…I felt no pain but I had that deep shaking almost like when your frozen to the core.
So They had me hooked up to the belly baby heart rate monitor and all was good for about 45 minutes as I rested but they kept loosing her HR because she’d drop lower…it was a bit scary and they called some doctors in and decided to hook up an internal one that attached to her head. Soon after her HR started actually dropping with my contractions so they said ok its time to get her out. I pushed in every possible position I think and apparently was doing a great job BUT….something kept pulling her back in. I pushed and pushed and she would kinda slide in again and they (nurses….I ONLY had nurses the whole time I was pushing so far I guess its true what they say the doctor only comes in when its time for them to literally come out). They called in a few doctors in kind of a panic…I guess there was still some membrane to come out?? really??? I thought I had lost all the possible fluid ever. So that came out and they had me on oxygen now as well to help me and baby. It was a bit tense near the end. The doctor then told me because of her HR and something is happening that they would need to use a vacuum now to help her get around the hump. They ended up having to give me oxygen because they were concerned about her levels…I cant really remember how long I had that on. I know I had her a good ways down as they asked me if I wanted to reach down and touch her head! I just started sobbing and said “I cant” lol
So with one last contraction and push they used the vacuum and out she came (apparently at one point a doctor was past her wrist “up in there” Im glad I didnt notice that lol.
The cord was wrapped around her neck as welll as around her body in a bunch of weird ways which is why she wouldnt come out. She was ok tho and had an apgar score of 8 after 1 min and 9 after 5 min. DH was so freaked out when she came out he just had a look of shock on his face. Our doula said she had never seen that before and DH was initially so scared. They got her out pretty fast and she was crying and they put her on me for skin to skin right away. We started latching for Boyfriend or Best Friend pretty fast as well maybe after a half hour or an hour? She had a small tougne tie so it was rough until they snipped it. Poor little thing ended up with jaundice and she was soooooooo sleepy for a few weeks. We had some feeding issues because of it…. they make you overfeed the baby so they poop out the bilirubin and because of that she got hooked on formula and we havent been able to get fully back on breast. (they opted to not have her in hospital under the lights because there was some bad virus’ going around and said its best of baby is home because she wasnt “severe” and to just feed it out of her) She still breastfeeds but we have to give her a bottle after as she had become lazy and just wouls not fully feed until full from me 🙁 BUT other then the cost its nto so bad. I have more freedom and am not tied to her as much (can have breaks) which is nice sometimes.
If I hadnt taken the break to rest then my full labor/delivery would have been 6 hours from my water breaking, so it was quite fast. She was born 3am Feb 15th 6lb 14oz and has the most beautiful blue eyes.
Here she is one of her NB photos and with her 2 month sign…my lill muffin