Post # 1
Just two observations that I wanted to get off my chest and see if I’m alone in this.
1. me and DH are in month 2 of TTC and it feels like each time I go online or speak to people there’s another pregnancy announcement. I joked with DH that everyone has one but us, he found it funny and it was a light hearted vent. Like now we’re TTC we keep noticing baby things, adverts, baby-friendly hings around town. I’m sure there’s no more pregnancies now than last year, just that we notice more now.
2. I’ve seen a few ‘oopsie, little one in the way. Go us!’ Posts to announce or jokes to that effect for unplanned pregnancies. I’m thrilled that they’re becoming parents and do the usual congratulations, but is it bad that there’s a tiny irrational part of me that feels it’s ‘unfair’ that there are people trying for months/years (way more than us) desperate for a baby have to see regular updates where people are ‘bragging’ about the fact they just happens to conceive? I’d never say anything to them but just, why say it!?. You wouldn’t put ‘only took us 8 weeks of trying’, so why publicaly announce the baby being unplanned? Talk with friends and family, fine, but The announcement isn’t any better/worse/more exciting because of how planned or unplanned conception was so it seems odd to me to draw attention to it
not really sure why I wanted to get this off my chest, but thought the bee was probably a safe place to use as an outlet for my baby-brain problems. Lol.
Post # 2
I know what you mean, now that I’m TTC I swear I see pregnant ladies EVERYWHERE! They were prob all there before, I just never noticed them till now.
The first 2 months of TTC for me were the hardest (I’m currently in month 5, no BFP yet). You expect/hope it will happen right away and when it doesnt its emotional. So I get where you are coming from. Now being at the point where I’ve had to try for 5 months, I feel a lot calmer and these things dont bother me as much. I am hopeful I will get a BFP soon – gotta stay positive!
Regarding people who post “whoops were pregnant” kinds of posts, I just think to myself how glad I am that I am aware enough to now be more sensitive to other people and their TTC efforts. I feel like noone really gets how hard TTCing is until you have to do it, so those people who post those things dont get it because they never had to try. They dont mean any harm, you really cant let it get to you. Best of luck to you!!!
Post # 3
as someone who has tried for 2 years I an assure you that the “oops!” announcements send me straight to crying crazy town. I had one friend actually tell me she was MAD she got pregnant on the first try – if she hadn’t been pregnant I might have smacked her silly for being so insensitive since she knew we’d been trying over a year at that point. Who gets mad when they TRY and nail it on the first shot?!
Post # 4
A person DH and I know got his side piece pregnant while we were trying, and while I was trying to get my PCOS under control. Their “oopsy” FB post almost sent me into a blind rage.
Post # 5
I’ve never seen an oops! announcement….how bizarre.
For some perspective, my gf, who diligently takes her pill at the same time everday just found out she is 14 weeks pregnant and isn’t sure she even wants kids…even though it’s hard to fathom when you want them so hard, it can be a big adjustment if you aren’t planning it!!
(Doesn’t make it any more fair, I know)
Post # 6
Maybe they admit it to be an oopsie pregnancy right away, so people don’t keep asking if it was planned. often heard that, although I really don’t know why people keep asking if a pregnancy was planned.
Guess this can be hurtful, too.
Post # 7
I’ll take it a step further. I don’t care for “pregnancy announcements,” at all and similar to gender reveal parties, will go as far as saying I find them questionable in taste for the reasons you mention. If you think about it, this is something that was never done at all before social media. Actually, my own policy is to keep my kids off of FB entirely. We sent old fashioned baby announcements to the extended friends and family circle and announced the pregnancies in person to the people we wanted or needed to tell.
Post # 8
We’ve barely told anyone, and already been asked twice if it was planned! I guess since we didn’t tell everyone we were trying, people think this is a fair question? lol
Post # 9
I agree about the gender reveal parties. They seem so self absorbed, I get second hand embarassment for people that throw them for themselves. The pink for a girl and blue for a boy thing really bothers me too. If I get pregnant I want to find out what gender I am having but dont want anyone else to know, so I dont get a bunch of pink or blue crap.
Sorry, getting off topic…
Post # 10
Screw gender themes! I want all animal onesies!!
Post # 12
Mrs. Meowerson :
HAHA i think i told you on the other board my theme is foxes. If someone askes I should just tell them I’m having a fox…
:”aw are you having a girl or boy?”
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
My TTC process took seven months…which can be considered relatively short by some, but felt like a LIFETIME for me! I totally get how you feel!
Also, now that I am pregnant, I’m almost feeling like…WAIT I needed more time to prepare!!! :-p
Post # 15
I will have to chime in as the one “oppsy”‘pregnancy in my group of friends. This was before Facebook tho so bare that in mind. I told a group of friends over dinner saying “oops I’m pregnant”. It’s more of a dual announcement-both I’m going to be a mom and I it’s not planned so don’t ask.
The FB announcement is for overall distant family and acquaintances. Close friends and family were notified by myself, Fiance, our parents. But fo those who would eventually see me with a large belly, the FB announcement is for that. And no, we didn’t make that to “brag” (what’s to brag? Im confuse) because when we announce our pregnancy we are thinking this is a general message to folks that we are welcoming a baby–offending is far from our purpose at all.
Gender reveal party is weird tho–I don’t get that.