Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
Ladies, I’ve been having some baby fever lately and I haven’t had it in a long time. I figured this would be the best place to post this question.
In the period before TTC, whether it was a few years away or a month away, how did you battle baby fever?
I’m 23 and my SO is 25. We are not actively TTC, but we know accidents happen and wouldn’t be upset should I get pregnant. But, we are trying to wait until after we are married, which is indefinite at this point as we’re not even engaged. I used to get baby fever really bad when I was 18 and 19, but I KNEW that I wasn’t ready to be a mother yet, so I would just push it aside. But, I do have a 4 year old brother, and since his birth my motherly instincts have continued to peak as I get older.
Aside from offering to babysit anybody and everybody’s children, what can I do during the times where I practically tear up at anything baby?
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
Plan for other things that need to happen before a baby come. Set goals for yourself and SO of things that you would really like to make happy before you bring a baby into this world. Do you want to get married first, buy a house, start a new job, etc. I guess maybe thinking about the negative affects of having a baby right now and compare that to what you always pictured when you start a family. For me I knew I wanted to get married so planning the wedding took up a lot of time and then I wanted a house so buying a house and decorating it was another task and then it was figuring out financials and working towards that goal that you would like to achieve prior to ensure that you can offer the best possible life to a baby.
Also Accident do not happen (or are less than 1%). If you ever spoke to someone who tells you they had an accident in my experience it is usually followed by I forgot to take the pill one day or I was on medication that messed with my pill. etc. So please if you don’t want a baby then you need to take control.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
@roxy821: This is actually exactly what I’ve been doing! It really does help. I think I’m just all hyped up because I’ve had 5 close people around me have babies in the last month, and I’ve also been doing a lot of house decorating lately. I definitely have some goals and those, coupled with my SO’s determination to be prepared (God bless him), we’re on the straight and narrow.
We already have a home, but I’m still going through and doing each room the way I want it. I’m in the process of paying off my debt (planning to pay off my car in 6 months) and saving like a mad woman. I would like to get my “mommy/adult” car as my 25th birthday present. I’m also working hard to finish my Associates degree in school, and then there’s the fact that we’re not even engaged yet. I KNOW that it will still be a few years from now, so I’ve been trying to just squish every one elses children in the interim. *sigh*
And THANK YOU! I have always said that about “accidents” too! There are no accidents, we all learned in Sex-Ed what makes a baby, so my SO and I have always kept a certain ingredient out of the picture (sorry if that’s TMI). Not to mention, I really think that it’s going to take awhile for me to get pregnant anywho, but I’m not going to be naive and bank on that one.
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