Post # 1
So I recently I’ve been having this strange sense to have a baby. Ive talked to my husband about it and he wants one but wants to wait until next year. But im afraid that if we put it off then we will just keep putting it off and so on and so forth. Plus, I’m on the pill right now, and I’ve heard it can take a while to concieve after going off of it. Also, I’ve always wanted to have kids atleast by the time I turn 22. (I’ll be 21 next month, he’s 25) and he says he wants kids no later than 27, so I’m not sure if thats why im having these strange feelings. We are financially stable, he has steady income, as do I. Also, my family keeps asking when we will have kids, all my friends either have kids or are pregnant. And all i see are babies or mothers to be everywhere.. Yes, we like to have our freedom to do whatever whenever, but we are’nt the party animals. Any advice?
Post # 3
I went through a time when I felt like this as well. My husband and I sort of had different timelines, I felt like I was ready right away, but he wanted to wait a year or two.
The advice I got on here was that with a baby, compromising is not really something you should do. A baby is SUCH a huge step and a huge change in a relationship, you should really wait until both parties are ready.
You are still so young, you have a lot of time ahead of you! I think you should wait until your hubby feels ready too. As soon as he does feel ready, you guys should totally go for it! No problem in having babies young!
Why don’t you start preparing yourself now? Looking for doctors, taking prenatals, etc. That way when you guys are ready, you can start right away and won’t have much to do to prepare!
Post # 4
I am also very young like you and sometimes have baby fever, but if your DH isn’t ready, then you aren’t ready as a couple. I know other young married couples who have had babies before one of the two of them was truly ready, and they just are NOT happy. You both need to be on the same page with this before TTC. I like PP’s advice; start doing some research and getting yourself prepared for when you guys are ready, but realize that you are young and still have plenty of time to take that huge step. Enjoy your time together as a childless couple. 🙂