Post # 1
Is it just me, or does it seem like baby fever hits most of us right after the wedding? I didn’t think I’d be that way – but I am! We have talked about it, and don’t think we will “try” until around next May.
Anyone else out there have baby fever? Anything I can be doing 6 months ahead to start planning to try to get pregnant?
Post # 3
We’re going to start trying one year from now. I’m so excited! I got baby fever really bad like, literally the next day after we got married. So far my plan is to work out like a mad woman next year as much as possible (so I can see my body in its finest form before its not-so-finest form and I’ve heard that people who regularly exercise handle childbirth better) and I’m going off the pill in maybe September or so. I’ll have to talk to my doctor when the time gets closer.
Any other tips would be greatly appreciated by me as well!
Post # 4
You know, when I saw this post, I thought, “oh no, you too?!?!” =P
YOu’re right, everyone DOES get baby fever post-wedding. Except me anyways =]
Post # 5
We had baby fever when we got engaged! So – a word of advice – wait until AFTER the wedding! It was our personal choice, but we decided after getting engaged and getting pregnant to spend our time and money on our child and wait to have our wedding…fast forward 4 years later…we’re back on track to planning our wedding!
I’m not part of any specific religious group. But I truly belive if your in love, and your committed whole-heartedly, why should it matter what order your life events come in?
Post # 6
I’m raising my hand to this one! The hubby wants to wait maybe a year until we start trying, but I wouldn’t mind starting tomorrow 😉
Post # 7
My husband and I waited 6 months to start trying and now I’m 8 months pregnant.
In the months before we started trying I did the following:
See my ob/gyn for a pre-conception check up (weight, pap smear, etc.)- to make sure I was ‘good to go’. This is also a time they can check for Save-The-Date Cards that might hurt your fertility. I got a prescription for pre-natal vitamins since you want your folic acid levels to be in the correct range BEFORE you get pregnant since most of the vitamins and such are most crucial in those super early times of pregnancy before you even know you’re pregnant.
Go off birth control a couple of months in advance to let my cycle get regular.
Go to the dentist– you can’t have xrays while you’re pregnant, so get that all taken care of before hand.
Go to the eye doctor– you’ll have enough appts once you get pregnant, so get all the check-ups out of the way.
Meet with my allergist and switch meds– I have pretty bad allergies, so going off allergy meds completely wasn’t an option for me. Some of the things I was taking were contraindicated during pregnancy (meaning they could harm the fetus) so I wanted to go off them as soon as we were going to start trying. The doctor put me on alternatives that were safe. Basically if you are on any medications- make sure they are safe for pregnancy BEFORE you get pregnant.
Meet with a nutritionist to discuss what was safe/not safe to eat during pregnancy.
Make your husband do a lot of the same stuff– he won’t have free time once the baby comes either.
Save money– I checked out what childcare would cost and we started socking $ away.
Check my insurance coverage– this can be a major one since not all policies cover pregnancy. I wanted to know if prenatal care was covered, what expenses I could expect to incur and what covering a dependent child would cost so we could be prepared.
Post # 8
Oh yeah I have it bad! But we both have agreed to wait at least another year so we can try to buy a house.
As far as getting ready, I have heard that you can start taking prenatal vitamins to prepare for it. You should make an appointment with you OB/GYN and talk about what else you can do to prepare for pregnancy.
Post # 9
@rosychicklet – GREAT advice! Thank you!!!!
Post # 10
@augustbride- you are very welcome!
Post # 11
Thanks so much for the great advice Rosy! I need to go finally see my OB/GYN, that’s for sure!
Post # 12
So I think about it alot, but it’s more thinking about when I’m going to want to have a baby…I think it’s because I THINK I am supposed to have baby fever now. (I don’t). For now playing with my 10 month old niece is sufficient : ) I’m 29, have been with my Darling Husband for 8.5 years, have a stable job, house, and like kids. We’ve only been married three weeks, but I wonder, when is it going to hit me?
Post # 13
Thank you Rosy!!!! That was all so helpful 🙂
I already have baby fever! But my fh got it first…
I want to get pregnant within a year after we tie the knot!
Post # 14
We’ve gone back and forth about when to start trying. When we first got engaged, we talked about starting shortly after we got married. The closer we got the wedding, the more we talked about waiting a while. Plus I’m about 40 lbs overweight and I’d really like to lose some of the weight and be at my healthiest before I get pregnant. So for now we are waiting.
But……..I’m torn. He’ll be 40 next month and I’ll be 33 next month. And we’d like to have 2 or 3 kids. And I really don’t want to have a baby after I turn 40. So I have the baby fever. I’m disappointed each month that Aunt Flo arrives (even though we aren’t trying!).
But…….I’m kind of enjoying our life right now. We’ve got our finances in order. We are socking away a little money each month and we have a little extra cash to have some fun and not live paycheck to paycheck. I’m really enjoying our life right now. No wedding stress, fixing up our little house, and just enjoying each others company.
But……I really want a baby!
Post # 15
I bought a book of what you need to do AT LEAST the 90 days to prepare for TTC. It’s not just medical info, it is also about finances, etc, though the emphasis is definitely on the physical. “Before Your Pregnancy, a 90-day guide for couples on how to prepare for a healthy conception” Also, make sure you track your cycles, such as on fertilityfriend.com. This REALLY helped me when I ended up having GYN issues, so they were able to figure it out pretty quickly, rather than just making vague complaints about my cycle.
While this isn’t perfect, here is my basic timeline
Feb – Married
~May – pre-conception check during annual exam; off the pill
~Aug – start taking prenatal vitamins, start tracking savings more closely; about this time started taking pilates + my usual walking & soccer
October – last big pre-baby trip 😀
hopefully December TTC! (give up alcohol & cut way back on caffeine at least 2 weeks b4)
This is just what works for me! Pilates is pretty unique in building up your pelvic floor muscles, so I hope it will help!
Post # 16
also, not to be a debbie downer, but I had some yucky/annoying issues when I went off the pill, and I’m VERY GLAD I did it 6 mos before TTC…Also, I read that those that are petite…it might take you longer to “get it out of your system”, but everyone is different! I’m taking no risks, as I’m REALLY hoping to get pregnant w/in the next year 😉 (I’d be 30 and he would be 32) Please only do this if you know you will always use backup, or go ahead and change your lifestyle (alcohol, PNV, etc)