Post # 1
So I had a pretty good wave of it after the wedding when we were in limbo with our house but it receded eventually. Now I can feel another one coming on. What doesn’t help? Talking to grandmothers with failing health.
Babcia, my husband’s grandmother (and the only remaining grandparent for either of us), has been winding down for a little while now and this weekend had to go to the hospital with the possibility it would be her last. We were sitting there talking and, predictably, the subject of babies came up. She emphasized, no pressure of course but she would love to see our child. And promised that she’s be checking in on her great-grandkids whether we gave her permission or not! (She’s such a firecracker! I love it!)
Since odds are not good she’d get to see it, even if I got pregnant today we’re not bumping up our timeline but as my husband said later that night, “it was all I could do not to tell you ‘Ok, fine. Make an appointment and get that thing removed!'” At least I’m not the only one suffering. 🙂
Oh, and when I told him about the term “pulling the goalie” that I heard from one of you girls he about fell over he was laughing so hard. You can bet that will be the go-to term in our house now!
Post # 3
I understand completely. I consider myself very lucky that at age 31, three of my grandparents are still living. I want to take advantage of this, and have my babies soon. We are currently trying, and that one of many factors in the timing.
Post # 4
caitlinc… I’m so sorry to hear about your husbands grandmother.
My husband lost his Father this past October and exactly two months later, we lost his Grandmother. His father was one of the greatest, most fascinating people I’ve ever met, and his grandmother was a firecracker until the very end. We miss them very much!
These events were the catalyst that made my husband want to “pull the goalie.” It’s very bittersweet. I wish your family well.
Post # 5
I feel your pain. All of our grandparents on both sides are already deceased so our future children will never know them. Because of this we are thinking of giving our children heirloom family names. I am also working on creating a nice large family tree and obtaining copies of family photos so that our children will have that connection to the past. I have baby fever BAD lol so I am trying to distract myself with these hobbies until my body cooperates (currently having fertility issues).
Post # 6
heathaah – That’s so awesome! I hope it all works out for you guys.
MissStarlet – Thanks, that’s very sweet of you and congrats on your little bun!
snmcdowell – That’s a fantastic idea! We’re also very keen to use family names and that would be a great way to visualize it! I love family trees anyways. The completely ironic thing is that ALL of the family names we want to use have rocketed up the popularity charts! Sofia and Isabella (his mother & grandmother) are both in the top 10 and Jackson (his dad and my grandfather) and Claire (my grandfather) are 32 and 62! I’ve always said I didn’t want popular names but the fact that they’re family may trump that. I guess one perk to waiting is that those names may not be as popular by then. Nor do I have to hold them so closely. If they’re already so popular someone will snag them if they want them regardless of what I’ve come up with! 🙂
Post # 7
I think the term “pulling the goalie” originated from Mrs. Spring, but I was looking for the original post and couldn’t find it just now. (Just wanted to give credit where it is due… and now I’ll feel horrible if it was actually someone else!)
Post # 8
Lol, I thought it came from EJS! You can thank me for “baby rabies” though. I’m always happy to take credit, though, so don’t feel bad, DG!
@ caitlanc – I think my grandfather passing away a couple months before our wedding increased our baby rabies, too. Only my grandmother is left in both my husband’s and mine families, so we’re glad our baby will be able to her great-grandmother at least once. We’re also using family names as middle names, to acknowledge our family members who are no longer with us.
Post # 9
I got the “baby rabies” the other day while we were visiting FI’s good friend. He’s got two little ones that are soo cute. We’re not even married yet, so it kinda sucks, but just as we were about to leave one of them had an “accident” and it made me remember exactly why I’m putting off having kids.
Post # 10
Yeah… I have it bad… and so does my Fiance. He apparently looked up a Chinese date/star table that predicts if we have a boy or a girl. He told me this after I was getting all googly eyed over some little girl easter dresses at Target last weekend.
Planning on “pulling the goalie” right after the wedding… 🙂
Post # 11
Ah, I think you are right Mrs. Spring. You had baby rabies and she was discussing the goalie. I love all the little phrases we have here!
Post # 14
Ha ha! Thanks DG, for looking for it. I could almost remember which post it was in but there were so many BC posts for awhile there I figured I didn’t have a snowball’s chance of finding it.
And thank you, EJS for introducing us to it! I’m pretty sure it’s the best description ever. The husband has now decided mine is “Patty Roy.” I mean, I’m a huge Avs fan and loved the guy but I’m not sure how I feel about him being all up in my stuff like that! 🙂
Oh, and Spring, I used “baby rabies” with my mom and she looked at me like I was crazy! I thought it was genius. On second thought, she may have just been in shock that I was admitting to wanting kids.
@Toffee – That’s how I know when I have it bad! Reading labor stories? I want to do it. (Seriously?! That’s not normal!) Holding my cousin’s screaming little girl? Don’t mind in the least. Babysitting J’s little cousins (one spoiled, one teething) was supposed to be good birth control, dang it! It was NOT supposed to make me think, I can do this! Good luck when you hit that stage!
@Ms. Caniche – It is SO much harder when you both have it! At least when it’s just one of you the other can balance things out. If we ever get it bad at the same time we’re in trouble. When J gets his career type job we may not be able to hold out. That’s one of the last road blocks for us right now since I’m hoping to stay home for a little while. 6 months and counting for you! 😉
Post # 15
well our wedding isn’t until june – but being legal and having had TALKED about babies now for a while – i am soooooooooo ready! i’m off BC and we’re using condoms til the wedding – and, believe me, I do NOT want to get pregnant before the wedding – mainly because I want to party and I just had my first dress fitting! lol
but yeah – 3 more months til we start TTC!!!!!!!
i can’t wait! 🙂
Post # 16
About 2 weeks ago, we had a discussion about TTC and hubs said he was ready to “pull the goalie” this summer. The phrase made me laugh, and then I remembered, we watched “Marley and Me” and that’s where we heard “pulling the goalie.” I was surprised because I thought he was going to want to wait another year.
I have held off since the wedding, but after our discussion, talk about baby fever. Now I just can’t wait for the summer to get here!