Post # 17
@Kate0558: aah I have baby fever SO BAD!! I’ve always wanted to have children by age 30 (I’m 25 now), but I want more than one and I want to start trying right after the wedding! however, I’m in grad school and thus having a baby in the near future would be problematic:( ideally, we’d like to start TTC right when I’m nearing my thesis defense. we’ve always planned on this timeline, but we had a formal discussion about a week ago. I would definitely make sure you have your finances under control before you start trying. adding a baby in the mix will always take some adjustment, but if you don’t have a savings cushion to fall back on (or family to help out), it might be even more trying.
Post # 18
if i waited until i was debt free i’d never have a baby…. thats how much debt i have. Stupid student loans. but that being said we do have a plan financially to have it all paid off…. one at a time ofcourse using the good ol’ snowball method. but thats probably a good 7 years down the road. The plan was to pay off our 3 small credit cards first and then start saving for a baby even while i’m preggo…. and thats still the plan. If we got pregnant before then wed have less savings.
I’m also praying DH gets a promotion. They asked him last month if he’d be interested but said it was still a few months out. So theres hope atleast.
Monthly I think we’d be okay… it would be tight with daycare but if DH gets his promotion anytime before the babies born we’d be better off.
I actually just went to pick up my next pack of birth control thinking i’ll just do one more month and they told me i’m all out of refills (which i shouldn’t be) so now i’m wondering if i should take this as a sign and go off the pill now. It could take a while to get preggers anyway… and we would be careful and not seriously TRY until january. DH always pulls out cus he was always trying to not have a baby cus he never trusted just one form of BC. So we could just do that for another 3 months… not exactly the best form of bc but itll do its job. I honestly don’t WANT to be on the pill anyway. i really just want to get my body back to normal without pumping it full of hormones everyday. Sure theres always a chance we could get an oops in the meantime… which wouldn’t be ideal but it wouldn’t be the end of the world.
I don’t know i guess i’m sort of thinking out loud. I have my period now and IF i’m going to start another pack i have to do that on friday so i don’t have that long to decide.
Post # 19
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
We agreed to wait until our first wedding anniversary to discuss starting to TTC. We keep going back and forth and it wouldn’t surprise me if we put it off for another year or two but it’s definitely happening within the next 5 years (before I turn 35.)
Post # 20
I had baby fever long before DH–but as soon as he mentioned it I was good to go!We had been married almost 2 years. However be sure it’s truly what you want and you aren’t just getting fake baby fever because it seems like everyone is having babies. I felt that way right when we got married, but ultimately I’m happy we waited a little while. You have to do what’s best for you! 🙂
Post # 21
We pretty much said we were waiting until we got married and bought a house because we wanted to be financially stable. (We waited to get married until we were financially stable, been together 7 years.) We’re currently deciding between starting soon, or waiting until later next year…somehow, my “comfort” during the summer is playing a role in his decision? LOL
Our goals were to finish college, get good jobs, get married, buy a house, and then start a family. It just made no sense to us to get married, or purposely have a child if we could barely afford to pay our bills.
Post # 22
I have had spurts of baby fever. Comes and goes. Had it when I was fairly young (early 20s) then nothing until 27. Then 30. And now @ 32 I am finally TTCing. The one thing that is different this time is that now I am 1) married, 2) DH and I are at a whole other level psychologically with each other (We were together since I was 26 but not on the same wave length. Hard to explain.)