(Closed) BaBY FEVER! how many kids do you want and what is your parenting style?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
2294 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your feelings about this might change once you have your first! lol

I NEVER wanted kids until I was about 22 and then something “went off” in me and I became baby-crazed.

I am now pregnant with our second child, and given that this will be a successful pregnancy, it will be our last kiddo. 2 is my max.

I’m hoping to be a very balanced parent. I’m not letting my kids get away with things. My DD is already expected to be polite and listens very well at 2.5 years old. I want to be very involved in my kids life, and teach them all I can about being a good person. I want to be there for them. Always.

Post # 3
2592 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I come from a super small family. Only me and my sister, although I do have a sister and brother from my dad but was not raised with them. So I want a BIG family I would love to have 5 kids! Already pregnant with baby #1, a boy, so he can protect all his siblings. I don’t believe in hitting child as punishment because I feel like they cry, get over it, and do it again.  So I’ll be the talking parent and make sure my child understand everything and I want to be very open with them. I don’t want them to be scared to come to me with anything.

Post # 4
6397 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I want 3 kids. That might change once I actually have them though! I also would love to have twins. They run in my family, and its about time for some to reappear. Haha.

Post # 5
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

Dang 6 kids? I wouldn’t have the patience lol. 2 is our max. I already told DH he’s getting snipped after lol. I’m a nanny, and I’m fun yet fair. I love goofing around with them but when it’s time to be serious, I don’t take crap and enforce timeouts and quiet time when needed. I don’t bribe them to behave or do what s asked-they know it’s expected. This will be my parenting style. 

Post # 6
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ideally I would have just one child and it would be a boy. I want to be able to take my kid to many different countries, experience many different cultures, have the option to do whatever activities interest him (sports, music, languages, camps, etc.), and I think that would be far more manageable with one child, both in terms of time and finances.

As for parenting style, it’s hard to say for sure since I am not a parent. School/homework, chores, volunteering, and reading will be non-negotiable obligations, however I may be more lax in terms of bedtimes, sleepovers, dating, clothes/self expression, etc.

Post # 7
3954 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My husband and I are both the oldest of 3, and we both want two kids. He would be ok with one, but I’d definitely like two. Soon!

Post # 8
6582 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have 2 girls and we are pretty sure we are done.  Both of my girls have strong personalities, so I have to be firm.  I try to give them opportunities to try many things- expand their horizons.  We do some kind of craft every day- yesterday we collected rocks and painted them. 

Post # 9
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We just had our first and two is my max for sure.  Both DH and i have siblings, i am 1 of 2 and he is 1 of 3 so we def want to give DD a sibling.. but 2 is it.  I can’t say what kind of parent I’ll be b/c DD is only 4 mos old right now and I dont’ think i can truly tell how i’ll be until I’m living it….

Post # 10
808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m the oldest of four, and in my group of best friends, all except one come from 6 child or more families so big families aren’t really anything crazy to me.  One of my really good friends just had her second a few months after her mom had #12 haha (the kids all think it’s quite the chuckle!).

Personally, I’d be happy with anywhere from 4-8, but I’m not really the type to nail down a number.  As for parenting, I don’t have any yet, but if I treat my own kids relatively like I treated my brothers (16 yrs younger than me), I’ll probably fall into the fairly traditional parenting type.  Manners, rules, respect, and boundaries…self-expression and wildness can wait until they’re 18…my house, my rules haha!  All the people I know who were raised like that are glad for it, and turned out well.  The kids I know who were given free reign have turned out to be messes and even told me they wished they’d grown up more like I did.  But time will tell! 

Post # 11
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I am currently pregnant with our first, but I have 2 siblings and hubby has another sibling.  Doubt this will be our only child but the thought terrifies me.  We were both raised in a strict Christian and Catholic household so our parenting style will likely be much more relaxed.

Post # 12
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I am the fifth child out of six, my husband is child number 14 out of 20. We want big families, We already have 6 kids, his mines our. Will love to have another one within two years. I am more extrict, he is more relaxed. We both work together in our parenting style. We both have to decide what is best for our children. 

Post # 13
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Fiance and I are both only children.  Ideally, we’d like a big family, but we’ll see what we can realistically handle, both emotionally and financially.  FI wants 4 boys!!  I don’t really care much for the gender, but hope for at least one of each.  

We’ve been talking about starting TTC summer 2015 (a year after our wedding) ahh, can’t believe we might be with a baby so soon!!

ETA: don’t have a firm decision on parenting style (I hope to sort of adjust as I go), but I’ll place importance on discipline, manners, education and independence.  The one thing I don’t want to be is a helicopter parent!

Post # 14
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


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rbuchanan09:  You should worry about being their MOTHER first…being their “friend” is far less important and not likely to truly happen anyway until they are in their 30’s or older. Also, during their teens/early 20’s expect to be enemy no. 1(in their own minds, of course).

Post # 15
2973 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


i’m pregnant with #1.

our parenting style: old school.

1. do as i say and not as i do.

2. go play with your sibling or outside.

3. there are consequences for your actions.

the end.

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