(Closed) BaBY FEVER! how many kids do you want and what is your parenting style?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

We want two! I  have two sisters, one older and one younger, and my husband is an only child. Two just clicked for both of us. We’d love to have a son and daughter. I definitely want to have at least 2 1/2 years between our kids (preferably 3-4) and my husband likes that age difference too. Of course, that’s if things work out ideally, so who knows! I think we will be very balanced parents. We are very different in how we respond to situations and it usually evens things out. I’m very organized and a planner. My husband is much more relaxed about things and go with the flow. I think our parenting technique will be similar. We have talked a lot about how whenever we make decisions in the future that affect our kids, no matter what it is, that we will be a united front. I’m sure that’s easier said than done, but that’s what we find really important. That all decisions are made together. 

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Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would love 6 but honestly I think we will stop at 3 and always be considering a 4th. Idk what my style would be but since FH is a musician/athlete and I’m a painter/writer I can’t help but think we will be raising a couple of hippy kids lol. The Arts will be very important. Being cultured, educated and well traveled is important to us. I also know that they will love and play hockey because we are big Sabres fans. 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

I want 5 children, my SO wants 2; we’ve agreed on 3 with the fourth to be discussed.

Both SO and I plan to be very balanced parents. We won’t let our children get away with bad behaviour. We’ll expect them be polite, to listen to adults and to follow our rules. I hope that I will raise them to be happy, well adjusted, independent, caring, confident, and well-mannered individuals.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Darling Husband and I are leaning towards three children but I would be happy to have more if finances, health and circumstances allow.

I lean towards the more gentle / attachment style of parenting for no particular reason that it feels natural to me and it seems to be what works for my daughter. I also find attachment parenting to be a positive take on parenting rather than some other styles that seem to focus on scaring parents with all the bad thigns that might happen!

Post # 35
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Sugar bee

rbuchanan09:  As a mother of 5, I say screw your plans and wait til you get there. Plan for the first kid and then plan as you go. Your opinion may not change , but it might…you never know til you get there.

 

Ironically only my 3rd and 4th were planned. Parenting can be infinitely more difficult when you realize that your partner doesn’t agree with you as much as you thought he did.. I love my kids, but if I had it to do over again I would only have 2 or 3. That’s just reality. I never saw the person my ex-husband would become. I really didn’t. 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee

rbuchanan09:  Also, my parenting style is an effort to raise my children into responsable, productive adults. I don’t believe in coddling or pretending that everything should be fair. Life is almost never fair. It’s about learning to push yourself, take care of yourself and live with the consequences of your actions. I have always been the disciplinarian, while their father is more popular, I am teaching them the realities of life. I can only hope that someday they appreciate it. 

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I want two… Darling Husband wants eight! That won’t happen, LOL.

I believe in firm discipline and correct behaviour. My kids will eat adult food etc, and behave correctly, or there will be consequences. I will gradually ease off them as they get older and they are more able to regulate their own actions and think things through. I intend to be honest with them, no matter what they ask me, from day one… even about things I don’t like sharing. I will try to steer them into a place where they are able to make adult decisions for themselves.

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I used to want one. Now that I’m pregnant, I feel like I want 20! I just keep wanting to experience this joy over and over! Of course, once the baby is born and reality kicks in…I think we’ll go for two. 🙂

We want to travel a lot with our kids, and provide private education, so financially having 3 or more would be difficult.

Our parenting style will be roughly based on the empathetic principle: Firm boundaries will be enforced, but in a loving way. That way it’s not permissive parenting, but it also doesn’t use hitting or lots of yelling to enforce rules. Great reference site by a clinical psychologist for anyone interested- http://www.ahaparenting.com 

 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Right this very minute, I want three, maybe four. However, that could change after having just one.

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