Post # 1
Yesterday I went to my MILs house to celebrate mothers day. My SIL was also there with her three kids. Seeing them just does not help my need/want to have a baby. And I know Darling Husband and I are not ready yet for a number of reasons. Fist and foremost we need to move out of this apartment. I love it here but its not ideal for a pregnant woman being that is a 4th floor walk up and its only a 1 BR. We want s two bedroom. We also have upcoming vacation and if I get pregnant now who knows if my OBGYN will allow to me to fly. She is already worried about me being a high risk pregnancy based on my medical history.
Just venting that I want a baby really bad. Anyone else going througg this? Technically I only have to wait 5 more months to start actively trying. So it seems far but its not.
Post # 2
we’ve been actively trying for 8 cycles. i was ready months ago.
Post # 3
Seems to me that it can strike anyone anytime. I was determined to be relaxed about the whole thing, I want them in the future, but am happy without…..but as soon as we started trying…..I cant keep off the baby boards and learning more about my cycle.
Post # 4
Daizy914: Yes, yes, a thousand times, YES!!! And we’re not getting married til the fall and in your position (need to buy a home). Also, we’re already in our 30’s so the clock is ticking! (for me at least).
I spent the day with my mom yesterday – we went to the zoo since it’s one of our fave places. It was crawling with families and kids. All the young parents riding the camel with their kids, the joy on their faces, the pictures, it was killing me. I know not every day with children is a day at the zoo (pun intended) and that it’s incredibly tough to be a parent, but I’ve mentally and emotionally been there for a while now. Just not financially nor is our living situation conducive. Being an only child, my mom is dying for me to have a baby which also is like, “no pressure”, right? Ughhh…
Post # 5
I had AWFUL baby fever for like 2 years before we got pregnant with Dear Daughter (who was conceived a little ahead of plans). It was so tough…a lot of our friends were having babies at that time, so it was so challenging. When DH’s best friends gave birth to their son, we ended up pregnant the following month… haha!
A big coping mechanism for me was to blog, and hang out at the Waiting to Try to Conceive board on another forum that I frequent. I built up a cloth diaper stash during my waiting time as well.
Post # 6
urchin: i have to do that. i haven’t been as active as I usually was on WB due to the new site, I am not loving it.
BurlapnLace: we live in NY, so to buy a house in the area we are in is out of the question. we will be renting for at least 5-7 years before we have a substantial amount to even LOOK at houses in Long Island, NY. We are looking to move into a 2 Bedroom. We have a 1BR now and we are only a couple and we don’t have the much room!
Post # 7
Daizy914: Oh, I hear you. I live in the tri-state as well. It’s truly unbelievable.
Post # 8
Right there with you. We are both so ready but the financial aspect isn’t realistic as we’re both students and have limits on our ability to work (we live in a country we aren’t citizens of). I’ll be finishing my PhD within the year and need to find a 1-2 year position which we’ll likely be moving for, and it makes me feel like it’ll just keep getting put off as I move into my next job and the next.
We have a 10 year old and I’m worried about putting it off so long that the age difference will be enormous. It doesn’t help that my mother-in-law and grandmother-in-law both spent ages yesterday asking if we were having a baby. It’s like a punch in the stomach every time someone new announces they’re pregnant. I love babies and I try to be happy for everyone but I am seriously sad inside.
Post # 9
kittyface: me too. i see everyone with their kids and i am happy for them but i can’t help but feel a little empty inside. Like, I want to experience that “LOVE” that every parent keeps talking about. 🙁
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Daizy914: yeah I hear ya. We’re waiting til next summer but many of my friends have babies and toddlers, and I’m definitely getting the itch. I’m also 31 (and 2/3 – these things start to matter!) so there’s that. Hubs is not ready any sooner though, and we’re both still enjoying the freedom of being childless for now. 5 months is hardly anything though, you’ll be there soon!
Post # 11
Daizy914: Count me in! I have major baby fever. We are on our 3rd month TTC and a BFP can’t come quick enough!
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
Daizy914: My entire family wants us to have a baby. My SO wants us to have a baby. ANNNND I have baby fever. Big time.
But, I’m being the rational one in all of this.
I want to get married first and I am currently working from home without it contributing to the possibility of me getting a maternity leave. My SO isn’t in a position to carry our household, so it’s just not the time to have a baby. <br /><br />
It’s really hard not to give in when everyone talks about it all the time, and you want it.
I’ve managed to stick to my principles up until now, and hopefully in a year and a half we’ll be in the position to get pregnant!
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Daizy914: Oh goodnees, you are NOT alone girl! I only got married a month ago but we’ve been together for over 5 years and I’m almost 30… I’ve been “ready” for a couple years. I’ve had baby fever before, but never the “when will it be my turn” longing that I’m experiencing right now. Darling Husband and I are sitting down tonight to figure out what we’re going to do about our next home (move or build), and determine how we’ll make that happen, so hopefully that will give me a better idea of when we can actaully start, but for now it’s killing me to not have any idea of when we’ll both be ready!
Post # 14
Ummm, yeah, right here – major case of baby rabies. Yesterday wasn’t too bad for me (mostly because Darling Husband and I were holed up at home), but getting on Facebook was just kind of like “look at all your friends who have adorable babies and are celebrating their first Mother’s Day!” I know it will be my turn very soon (we’re going to start TTC in July), but I feel like I’ve been waiting a very long time – it’s hard.
Post # 15
SadieBee: Lol Baby rabies! that made my day
yes it was tough on FB seeing all the mommas and their babies and momma to be’s.
missamysmiles: its hard to be rational. we are both being rational about it but its so hard. i keep reminding myself, 4 floor walk up! you don’t want to do it when you are pregnant! Moving-you don’t want to do a big move 6 months pregnant LoL–I am my own worst enemy
thank you ladies, this has really helped me today