- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I, too, am in this boat, unfortunately. We waited until we were stable with our jobs and incomes to become engaged, and now DH’s job is even better– and I’m preparing to move up in the job world, too.. To me, it’s sort of prime time to TTC; to Darling Husband, it’s time to live. We’ve been living for 25 and 27 years! haha
So, we have a plan. This year, we pay off all of our credit cards, and we travel. So, we have a Euro trip planned; a few trips in the states; and we’re going sky diving for our first anniversary. We sort of made a pre-baby bucket list including a really long zipline and snowboarding.
We’ve been together for 6 years and lived together for 3. But, for a lot of it, we were college kids with college jobs. We’ve done a lot, but there’s so much more we want to do and see that would be super difficult with a baby.
Don’t get me wrong, I have a plan if it were to happen. The problem comes when I want to TTC in 2-3 years, and Darling Husband wants to wait 5-7 years. He’s super confusing, though, because he’s always talking about the things he wants to teach our kid. And, we have a name for a boy– Lucian Alexander. We can’t agree on a girl name, though.
Darling Husband shared with me his concerns. I want to be a stay at home mom for the first 3-5 years for each child. We’re only planning one or two. He’s nervous about being the sole provider. He’s also nervous that I won’t want to go back to work. Well, I’ve thought about this. When I was in college, I was a nanny. I told him that I could nanny part time while I was with our firstborn, and once he was in school, I’d be happy to work. I think Darling Husband felt a little better, but he still has reservations– which I understand.
We both also want to own a house. However, I can’t be a stay at home mom and own a house where we live now. We have to move (it’s far too expensive here), and Darling Husband loves his job. There are so many moving parts. I’m a little afraid that if he really waits for the “perfect” time, I’ll be 35 and we’ll have trouble conceiving.
For now, we have two nieces and a nephew. I love babysitting (I’m their favorite sitter), and I enjoy giving them back!
sorry… this ended up much longer than I had intended