(Closed) Baby fever ? Too soon ?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Oh my gosh!! I am feeling it too! The sentiment you described: “wanna be married a good year before I decide to have a baby” was always what I have felt but now…..I am not even married yet! lol!

I kinda don’t think its bad though– you have been together for 5 years Laughing it is not really jumping into things I think.

And I guess on the plus side, they say it can take healthy couples 6 months to a year to fall pregant naturally, so even if you did drop your birth control tomorrow it wont be a on the spot thing!

I guess I just need to subdue my baby madness until I get married lol!

Post # 4
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1426 posts
Bumble bee

@Miss2BaMRS:  I totally get you, though my baby-fever came on about 5 months after Darling Husband and I got married.  I never thought it would come on so strong and it’s just been getting worse with quite a few friends and family having LO’s around us.  I know Darling Husband isn’t ready so I’ve just been holding it…

I don’t think there’s a “too soon” after marriage to start trying.  A friend of mine got preggers a month after she got married (not necessarily trying, but stopped any and all BC) and they now have the happiest little guy ever!  When you’re ready, you’re ready.

I would sit down and talk to your Darling Husband about your feelings, see what page he’s on and go from there! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Miss2BaMRS:  Of course you can change your mind!! I think you can do whatever you like and not worry about other people (except your man of course)

๐Ÿ˜€ And thank you for your advice also– I have already bought my wedding dress and there is not way i could fit into it even if I were only a little bit pregnant lol!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you and your husband are ready to have a baby then that’s all that matters. We got pregnant about 2 months after we got married. Excited, nervous and all those other things that go along with it. Don’t worry about what people say. You’re allowed to change you mind about when you want to have a baby.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Miss2BaMRS:  girl i totally feel you! Darling Husband and i originally said we want  to be married 2-3 years before TTC. We were together for 6 years before we got married. Welp here we are 8 months after getting married and i am Pregnant! We both got hit with baby fever bad recently. i have an adorable 15 month old nephew his mom (my sister) is pregnant again with #2 and my SIL is currently pregnant as well. We decided i would go off BC and we would start “trying” and just see what happens. Well what do you know i got pregnant my first cycle off BC. So yes it takes the average couple 6months-1 year to conceive BUT make sure you are 100% ready when you go off BC because you could get lucky and nail it on the first try like we did! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Goodluck and remember to do what is best for you and your hubby, doesnt matter what anyone else says or thinks!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Miss2BaMRS:  My SO and I will have been together 7 years by the time we get married this fall. I think HE is the one with the “baby fever”. He’s been wanting a kid for a little time now. And like you, “when I get married I wanna be married a good year before I decide I want a baby”, I always thought that, but now I’m rethinking it and maybe sooner than later after we get married. The only thing really holding me back is the fact that our house is so incredibly small and if we had a baby.. I seriously don’t know where we would put everything!

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Miss2BaMRS:  We’re not even married yet and I’m already thinking about getting pregnant once we’re wed in Nov! Never did I think I’d say that…I was always in the same camp as you (wanted to wait about a year at least) but he is SOO ready to have a baby (he’s 9 yrs older than me). But I’m worried that part of my thinking has to do with the fact that I like the attention that the wedding is putting on me and I’m afraid I’ll be a little bummed once everything is over. 

I know, that’s not a good reason. I’m just not sure if that’s where these baby thoughts are coming from. Have you thought that way as well?

Post # 13
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had raging baby fever the first few months after the wedding, but it has calmed down a little bit now. I would be excited if we got pregnant, but we are still preventing so it most likely will not happen. I am enjoying doing things that won’t be as easy to do when we have kids. We are planning a big trip to Europe in the next year and I am super excited about that.

 

 

 

My SIL is due with our first niece/nephew in about a month. I am hoping spending time with the baby will cure my baby fever for a little while, but it could very well kick it in to high gear again.

 

 

 

I have a lot of friends that are pregnant right now so I am enjoying buying things for their babies. It gives me an excuse to browse the baby section at Target and on Amazon.

 

 

 

If you are definitely ready then go for it, but I would suggest waiting a few more months before you decide. I think my baby fever was just my mind trying to move on to the next big thing after the wedding. I am trying to live more in the moment instead of skipping right to the next big life event. 

 

 

Post # 15
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I know about all this! we want to start trying right away except that I got a blood test right before we got married and it turned out that I had to get a Rubella booster. So maybe in 2 months from now…

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Only YOUR and your hubby will know when is the right time. Been together 5 years and have a great relationship sounds like a good thing to me BUT probably because I am in the same boat as you are. I have baby fever badly, and we are only on 3 months married but together 5 years next month. Everyone has been telling me that if you ever wait until “the perfect time” you won’t ever have kids. So I am going with that. Talk to hubby. Good luck!

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