Post # 1
So I’ve been fighting off some baby fever for awhile now, but I’ve had a sneaking suspicion lately that I’ve been misdiagnosed. I think I actually have pregnancy fever. I’m fascinated by pregnancy – all the weird things that happen to the body, baby bumps, birth stories, etc. I actively seek out and read info on these things, and I think, “wow, can’t wait until I’m there.” But what I find weird is that I’m not really equally obsessed with the info about what to do after baby actually comes out! It’s not that I don’t like children or that I wouldn’t be thrilled as all get out to see what sort of child my DH and I would produce, see DH as a father, and so on. I just am not drawn to the info on infants/children as much as I am the pregnancy stuff.
Please tell me I’m not the only one?
Post # 3
I think a lot of women feel this way at some point or another. Especially since pregnant celebrities are always in the news looking amazing, and there is so much adorable baby stuff out there. I’ve developed a full on baby shopping addiction, and I’m loving every minute! Try to keep a realistic view though, it’s definitely not all glowing bumps and cute maternity clothes.
Post # 4
I’m the opposite…the whole pregnancy thing really scares me. I do know a lot of people who LOVE being pregnant though, and a friend who told me she can’t wait to experience pregnancy so I’m sure you’re not the only one.
Post # 5
Being pregnant is awful. Woman who say “I love being pregnant”, I think are lying LOL!!!
I’m only kind of kidding. I think woman who have very easy pregnancies may feel this way, but when I talk with woman now who have children about how I don’t like being pregnant it’s amazing how many of them discuss how awful the whole thing was so openly, when before it was like a special secret that no one discusses.
Post # 6
I definitely have pregnancy fever. The thought of planning a nursery, picking names, taking bump pictures, clothes shopping, etc., all sounds awesome to me. The thought of having a living, breathing, can’t sustain without me human is a wholeeeeeeeee other ball game. The thought of that makes me feel like I’m having a panic attack!
Post # 7
I feel the same way! Well, I see cute babies and want one too =P but I keep thinking.. being pregnant seems so exciting, I want to be pregnant! And then I look at the bump love thread which makes me want to be pregnant even more! Although my friend at work just had a baby and was telling me some of the *not so glamorous* parts.. it helped ease the fever a bit =]
Post # 8
Exactly! I love the baby bump thread on here, but when I see an actual baby, I think, “Awwww, how cute!” then I think about how nerve-wracking it must be to actually raise one and make sure it’s safe and doesn’t grow up to be an a-hole. Yikes.
I wonder if not enjoying every aspect of pregnancy has some stigma to it, kind of like not enjoying every single aspect of wedding planning makes some people look at you like you’re crazy. So maybe the ladies keep quiet about the awful parts, because they don’t want to be judged as a bad mom or something? No judgement here – puking your guts up, being controlled by your hormones, being so tired you can’t stand it, and feeling just horrible in general don’t really sound like a ball of laughs to me.
Post # 9
I think as woman we put a lot of pressure on each other when it comes to every aspect of parenting/motherhood. You want to be the best Mom out there and if you complain once about being overwhelmed or not loving every part of it, it is “the most rewarding job out there” as people say, then there’s something wrong with you.
I think a lot of woman just fake it till you make it, even with Motherhood. Think about how many woman have postpartum depression now? Now being the operative word here. Did our Mother’s and Grandmother’s generation not suffer from this? Since it’s hormonal it would be difficult to imagine that something in this generations bodies have changed so much that all of sudden postpartum exists. Woman just hid it and didn’t talk about it, because there is shame around not being the happiest you’ve ever been now that you have a baby.
I’m a very honest person and always have been. When I talk about my struggles with pregnancy it’s amazing to watch so many of my friends open up and tell me how much they struggled with it as well. However, when they were pregnant they never mentioned it to me. I think I owe it to my friends who have not had a baby the truth. Yes, it’s amazing what the human body can do in producing a child, but along with that comes puking, constipation, exhaustion, sleeplessness, goo leaking from every orifice, hair growing all over your stomach and face, and the best part, peeing yourself. Yes it’s amazing to feel the baby kick, but not at night when all you want to do is sleep and the baby is doing the riverdance. Yes I cry every time I hear his heartbeat, I also cry when I realize I’ve run out of special K or at valtrex commercials when the ladies life has changed and now she’s found love. And try having sex with your husband or enjoying it enough to orgasm when you can actually see your tummy moving during the whole process.
Does any of this mean that you shouldn’t want to get pregnant and have a baby, of course not, but it certainly isn’t a glamorous process by any means.
Post # 10
it’s funny because i was telling DH that i’m not freaked out about having a kid and being a mother as much as i am of being pregnant, etc. it’s something about that unknown that really freaks me out! babies don’t seem as scary as pregnancies!