(Closed) Baby fever – why are you NOT having a baby now?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
6891 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Why are we not yet?

Age, Money, Personal Growth (we want to be married for at least a year), oh and Grad School.

ETA: Just remembered I posted this thread months ago and got some funny/interesting responses.

Convince me I don’t want babies yet…

Post # 4
7582 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@redheadem:  Just keep repeating the first 3 lol. ALL very good reasons.

Post # 6
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I get this way too! Baby fever sure is contagious. You just have to imagine having this little baby to take care of all the time, realizing you will never get any sleep nor will you be able to work for awhile, and then you will have even less money! That is how I knock the baby fever right out of me.

Post # 7
2521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Um, money and we aren’t married yet.  Money is the big one.

Oh and I want to go back to school, and eventually go to medical school.  And I don’t think I’m actually able to have biological children so why rush it?  I spent the last 2 years wanting something that I’ve accepted probably won’t happen.  And I’ve come around to being okay with it. 

Edit to add: We’re moving to the Bay area living in a teeny, tiny apartment. No way a baby would be good (or responsible) to add to the mix. 🙂

Post # 8
11376 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We just don’t want to right now. Simple as that.

We like to do things when we want to! We do alot of stuff, golf & hiking are our number 1 during the summer. We like to travel, take mini weekend trips. Go to sleep when we want, wake up when we want (besides the fact that work doesn’t always allow that, haha.) Have sex when we want, date nights when we want. Pretty much selfish reasons I guess. But it is what it is. We like our freedom & we love having “us” time. We are young & don’t feel rushed. So until we decide to those are our reasons not to. 🙂

Oh and another biggy we want to buy our house before we start TTC. We rent a 1 bedroom apartment right now. Its big enough for us & that is it.

Post # 9
11164 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

My best friend (and MOH) told me yesterday she is pregnant (five weeks). I am elated for her but it reminded me of just how much I don’t want a baby.

So here are my reasons:

1). We do have a great living situation and we’d like to keep it that way

2). We have the freedom to do whatever we want, when we want it

3). We want to be married for a few years before trying

4). We are just getting to enjoy the success we have worked hard for, why not enjoy it sans baby?


Post # 10
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have baby fever so bad! I have 4 pregnant friends right now and another just had the cutest little girl in January. I can’t get enough of her!

The only reason we’re not TTC yet is because we’re not married. Wedding planning is enough excitement right now. But come September, all bets are off!

Post # 11
10 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

My only advice is to not make permanent decisions on temporary feelings

Post # 12
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We’re not married yet.

We want to travel a little more.

Post # 13
6995 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

 Wait!!! I’ve got the fever too and while I don’t think we are too young (he just turned 27, i’ll be 26 in may) i just am not quite there yet maybe towards the later end of the year for me BUT i totally suggest waiting.

We said we would wait at least a year (which was in february) and i’m soooo glad we have. This first year of marriage has been absolutely amazing. We saved some money, got to go on little trips here and there, attend a few out of state weddings, worked on getting our finances in order and really just enjoyed being married. i wouldnt trade this year for anything and I’ve loved having time for just the two of us before starting our family. We both really want to have kids but decided to really live it up this summer and revisit the idea in the fall.

Post # 14
650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We will be married in about 1.5 months so I’m not going to list that as a reason?

Main reason being: I want to be done school. I’m planning on going back to school in sept. and after that program is over I’ll be around 27/28ish and we have agreed that then would be an ok time to try if we want to. I would try now but I dont want to be a new mom in grad school. However, if it happens during that time that’s fine, but right now we are not purposely trying.

Aside from that everything else is in place for one so if we have an ‘oops’ it would be ok.

Post # 15
3373 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We just don’t want one yet.

We worry it will ruin our amazing relationship. I don’t know any parents that are crazy in love anymore.

We think all kids are pretty awful/brats and we worry that ours would turn out like that too.

Post # 16
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

-We were married at 2 years together and spent 1.5 years of that time long distance.  We want to enjoy a couple of years just the two of us and adjust to living together.

-I really, really, really need and love sleep.  I am not ready to give that up yet!

-We want to buy a house first

-Professional/financial reasons:  DH doesn’t have a full-time permanent job (seasonal full-time) and I want to get one more promotion and be settled in that job for a bit

-Flexibility-we go where we want, when we want, not tied down to a specific schedule beyond work

-None of our friends have kids and I honestly feel like it would be a bit isolating

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