(Closed) Baby hope chest… am I crazy?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is it crazy to start collecting baby items now? Not ttc for 2 yrs.
    Yes! : (66 votes)
    56 %
    Not really. Just don't go crazy! : (44 votes)
    38 %
    No way! That's fine! : (7 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ll be honest, and say that we just started to TTC and I’ve been collecting baby stuff for probably a year or so. I haven’t bought clothing yet, but we do have stuffed animals, books, blankets, etc.

    Some things to consider would be that in the event you are not able to have children, will it upset you to see all this stuff or would you be neutral about it?

    In addition, I would hesitate to buy or make too much clothing or anything else that usually gender specific because you don’t want to end up in a situation where your baby is dressed in gender neutral clothing daily because you’ve amassed so much. That’s why I’ve focused on items I find at a good deal that I can easily regift/resell as needed that generally are gender-neutral. FWIW, most of the things I’ve purchased are at least at 60% off or more and are generally pricier items, such as Aden + Anais blankets.

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Sorry but I think this is kind of crazy.  I would focus your efforts on something more immediate like your new marriage, your career, your home, friendships etc.  Live in the present.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Well, something else you can do that is “free” and will help ease some of the baby fever would be creating a baby board on Pinterest with cute clothing and other baby stuff that you find. That way, you won’t feel like you are missing out since you still have the picture and link of the item, but you aren’t amassing boxes and boxes of baby stuff. Plus, if in the event you aren’t able to have kids, all you have to do is delete the board and not donate/sell all that stuff you’ve collected. If your tastes change in two years, at least you won’t have wasted money on all these things because it was just a pin.

    With the new hidden board feature, no one will ever know that you are planning this far in advance, if you care.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    lol, I totally understand what you mean. I even told Fiance that I wanted to start buying some gender neutral necessities that can be easily stored away. But my problem is that I think all gender neutral stuff just looks like boy stuff and I wouldnt want it for a girl. 

    But I do have wishlists on amazon, so if I get pregnant, I’ll have almost everything I need right there all ready for me. XD

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I totally understand the temptation, but I agree with a PP and suggest that you try to live in the moment and limit the baby prep at this point. Pregnancy is loooong and you will have lots of time for shopping and knitting once you find out you’re expecting… if you’ve already stocked up, it will be a boring wait!

    That said, if you come across something really unique or 100% perfect for the baby, I’d go ahead and get it!

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I couldn’t do that, but that’s just me. We had a girl name picked when we found out we were pregnant in November, and then when we miscarried, it kind of ruined the desire to use that name if we get pregnant again (we both were hoping for a girl, and didn’t ‘know’ but kind of ‘knew’ it was a girl…though that makes no sense). I couldn’t buy clothes/bibs/etc. and then wonder what would happen if we MC’ed again, just because I would feel like those things were for the baby we lost.

     

     

    Post # 11
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    3152 posts
    Sugar bee

    I talked to my Darling Husband about this once and we thought that if we ever saw amazing deals on the big ticket items, we would think about getting them before TTC so we didn’t have to worry about paying all the start up costs of a baby right when we got pregnant. But the tricky thing is being happy with your purchases in a few years and not just buying all new stuff when you find out you are expecting (or what sex the baby is, if you are finding out) and then the stuff you bought a few years ago is not used and the money wasted. 

    Sometimes I get baby crazy, but I have about a decade of waiting to TTC. I have just decided to ride it out when this happens and fantasize about baby names and the nursery and all that…and wait til it passes. I’m not going to spend money on some vague future now when there is so much to do and enjoy right in front of me. I don’t want to regret wishing away the time of being kid-free when we finally do decide to have a child. 

    So, I guess I would be very, very cautious about getting anything. Maybe use a 3 month rule or something…watch expensive items you want and love for a few months (especially cause name brands often go with the season) and if you still love them three months later when they are putting out the new line, get it at a discount when they are trying to get rid of their stock. 

    Post # 12
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    1431 posts
    Bumble bee

    I know it is hard having baby fever  but I agree with some others that it may be better to focus on your new marriage over baby. There is a board with a bucket list before TTC. I recommend doing that! Come up with some stuff you and your Darling Husband would like to do and accomplish before you start trying to put the focus back on the two of you and not a baby yet. There is going to be plenttyyy of time to be a mom and collect things and only a short time to be just newlyweds so enjoy:) 2-3 years is going to feel like an eterinity to wait if thats your main focus. But I think a hope chest is a sweet idea also.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee

    Definitely agree with a PP about making a Pintrest board with pins of neat baby things you have found for the future. I have a board of that, as well as ones with nursery ideas. Helps with my baby fever and it’s free!

    Post # 14
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    1224 posts
    Bumble bee

    I have some baby blankets and stuff, but it’s all hand-me-downs that have been passed down. I feel like heirloom stuff is ok to have around, but I couldn’t torture myself with going out and buying stuff cause it’d just make the baby fever worse!

    Post # 15
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    3587 posts
    Sugar bee

    Don’t go crazy and get gender neutral. I’m currently selling my daughter’s clothes and I have a friend who buys a few sleepers here and there. She has a son and is NOT pregnant. Truthfully, she sounds nuts. IF she is blessed with another child, it may not even be a girl, so she’d have wasted money. She says they are low on funds, but know what, if you are low on funds, you don’t buy things you don’t need!

    Anywhoo, sorry for the vent. Don’t buy things that may go out of date and expire. Like a bottle or so, that you can keep would be good. When we TTC I never bought anything, but then, it took us 1yr so after a while I gave up anyway.

    Good luck on what you decide!

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee

    Not crazy at all.  I have started knitting for a nana hope chest. Smile

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