Baby K is here!!

posted 1 year ago in Babies
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

 

pinkshoes :  Aw congratulaitons! His little fingers are adorable <3 

As far as the not sleeping at night, that sounds about normal to me. They get their days and nights mixed up when they’re that little sometimes. We didn’t bring DS home until he was 2 weeks old, but after that I mostly napped during the day when he was sleeping to make up for the lack of sleep at night. It does get easier. In the moment it feels like forever but then you’ll blink and he’ll be 6 months old. I second the reccomendation to check about acid reflux, especially if he’s screaming when he’s laid down flat. DS has HORRIBLE reflux and meds were the only thing that helped. Also if your not BFing you might try chanig formulas. We had to switch to Nutramigin (super expensive :/) for milk allergy and it helped so much.

KittyYogi :  Ahh your baby is here too? So happy for you. Congrats! Would love to hear your birth story if you ever feel like sharing it.

Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Congrats!!!

My first was sometimes was fussy in the evening (which is normal) but my second was definitely colicy in the evening.  He wouldn’t stop crying unless he was on the boob.  I think he had some reflux because he would nurse until he puked it all back up ALL over me.  I ended up giving up dairy for 6months which made the puking go away.  If you are nursing, oversupply can also cause similar symptoms (too much foremilk, not enough fatty hindmilk).  I did have an oversupply but I block fed and pumped my extra so I don’t believe that was an issue with mine.  Tongue/lip ties can also be a cause.   My second was also a terrible sleeper (woke up 2-5x a night until 19months).  He was what they call a “high needs baby”, you might look that up.  They say they need more of everything…except sleep lol.  But at least as he got older the cuteness and interactiveness made up for how frustrating he was at night.  Good luck!!

Post # 18
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

congrats! the first weeks are tough, no doubt.  6 weeks gets better, then 12 weeks gets better. and then it just gets more and more amazing each month.  starting at 8m was my favorite.

we spent almost $20k on fertility treatment.  those first few weeks, i was so sleep deprived, hormones running rampant, breast feeding was a struggle (and i had a reduction so was already dealing with supply issues) plus my 1st was a premie in the NICU.  i thought i had made the biggest mistake of my life and wasted all that time, energy, and money.

but that newborn period doesn’t last long.  and i would take it over not having a baby any day.

i suggest reading happiest baby on the block.  sushing, swaying, swaddling, sidelying, suck.  the 5 S’s.  are all things that help baby soothe.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yay congratulations! I don’t go on the Bee much anymore but I’ve been creepily logging in every few days in hopes of seeing a birth post from you. I’ve been rooting for you for a long time and I’m so happy you have your beautiful baby.

Nights can be rough, that’s for sure. I have a 3 year old and 7 month old and all I can say is that it will pass and you and baby will find your groove eventually. Just enjoy the cuddles as much as you can. Not very helpful advice but really all I got. Congrats again!

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper

pinkshoes :  Idk, pretty early on! I’ve always been thrilled to have dark hair/eyes because I was always so much closer to my mom and her whole side of the family and wanted to look more like them 🙂

Hahaha I remember reading somewhere here that you wanted 3 kids right when I was in the throes of #newbornlife and was thinking “omg she cray.” I’m still probably one and done, but the thought of one day having another doesn’t seem as terrifying as it once did haha. I’m sure you’ll experience the same.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

Congratulations! I’ve followed your story during the last few years. So happy you got your happy ever after. We are still TTC (15 months I think but I’ve lost count). Obviously no advice to give but I hope the nights get easier soon!

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

pinkshoes :  As much as the opinion of a stranger counts, please PLEASE cease all thinking about having “failed”! You have gone far above and beyond what so many people could endure to bring him into this world, so you’re already a hero to many of us! Also, the newborn phase is HARD and anybody who claims they never had a “oh crap, did I just blow up my life??” moment is a lying liar who lies. The sleepless nights, the struggles with feeding, the realization that your schedule is totally out of your hands….I remember people telling me it would get better by 3 months and all I could think was “3 F&^5ING MONTHS OF THIS?!”  But the change happens so gradually, you adjust without realizing it and then suddenly you are the one telling someone to “cherish the newborn phase” lol.  Just take it one day at a time Bee.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

Congratulations on your little bundle! What an adorable little hand <3 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

pinkshoes :  Congratulations! I’ve followed your story for a longtime and am so pleased you finally got your gorgeous baby. What you an your husband endured to bring him into the world is incredible, please don’t ever see that as a failure. It is a triumph! You should be incredible proud of yourselves that you made it through such a difficult time. 

Most babies have days and nights messed up. It’s hard but they get there in the end. Just try and keep the lights low and your voice quiet during the night so he doesn’t get too stimulated, though that’s not always easy.  I know everyone says it but it really does pass quickly try and make the most of those night time cuddles and just let some of the chores slide so you can get some rest. I found audiobooks and podcasts really helpful so I could stay awake and entertained but keep the room dark.

Also, allow yourself some days off where you just sit and watch Netflix, cuddle that gorgeous boy and do nothing else and don’t have any visitors unless they are coming to bring you food and you’re happy for them to see you in your pjs. It might pass quickly in hindsight but when you’re in the thick of the newborn haze it can be hard, it’s totally exhausting, you want to cry whether you feel happy or sad and your body hurts! So he kind to yourself.

If you’re having any issues breastfeeding there are a couple of groups I’m in on Facebook, private breastfeeding and beyond and extended breastfeeding support that are really helpful. They are private groups but full of experienced lactation consultants and nursing mums who give amazing non judgemental advice and support. 

 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

Aww congrats! What an exciting time <3

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Congratulations!

And any mother who says she never had moments of wondering wtf she’s done, and if having a child was the right choice during the newborn phase is a lying liar. It’s so much more difficult than you can imagine until you’re in it. The plus side is that it does end…but i also know that isn’t very comforting right now. 

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Aww congratulations! My baby nephew is half Chinese and half white and he has dark hair but bright blue/green eyes! The sleep does get better. One month was a total turning point for my son. Hang in there!!pinkshoes :  

Post # 30
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Sugar bee

pinkshoes :  Don’t feel like you’ve failed! We’ve all been there, anyone who says they haven’t is lying. There are moments I look at my son and go “Shit, what did I do?” Like when he screams bloody murder at the crunchy paper toy he’s loved since 3 months old, because it crunched too loud. And then he smiles, or giggles, or stands up on his own and is proud of himself and I’m like “THAT’S what I did.” It’s totally normal. 

You know, I was told for months that I would miss the baby stage, and I do … but I don’t. I miss the newborn cuddles, because my little guy is too busy to cuddle these days. But the once in a blue moon he snuggles into my neck, it’s like a million times more amazing. I LOVE watching him learn and explore, and knowing he’s doing something when he wants to, versus just “being” (like cuddling). 

So, do enjoy, but don’t put so much pressure on yourself to love the newborn phase. I know lots of people who don’t. 

You’ll find your groove! Hang in there Momma!

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