Baby name dilemma

posted 3 months ago in Names
  • poll: Would you still chose the name Tessa?
    Yes, who cares! You love it that's all that matters. : (47 votes)
    70 %
    No, not worth it. : (18 votes)
    27 %
    Other. Please explain. : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Of course what really matters is if you and he love it, but l think if it were me it would irk me if my mother persistently told people “ well she’s called after/to honour  me you know” . Especially if she kept doing it in my presence and l felt compelled to correct her. 

    When your baby is born you may, in any case, think that the name doesn’t suit her anyway. But if you really are absolutely sure you won’t think that, l’d start telling people yes, you have chosen a name and it’s from literature. This will kind of prime them as it were. I agree with pps, do not tell anyone, anyone at all her actual name until she is born, then you can reinforce the D’Urbevilles connection .

    lf your mother starts with the named-for-me stuff, just laugh and say ‘ l don’t think Hardy had you in mind ma!’

    ahartig :  

    Post # 17
    Member
    11 posts
    Newbee

    So I may be biased because my first name is Tessa lol but I say go for it! I personally love my name! It is not very common (at least where I live) and I have only met a handful of other Tessa’s thoroughout my life. My legal first name is literally just Tessa and I have only had a few people ask me if it is short for Theresa or another name. Overall, in my experience I don’t think most people associate the two.

    Post # 18
    Member
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2025 - City, State

    They’re closely linked in my mind.  I wouldn’t do it.

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