- 3 months ago
Of course what really matters is if you and he love it, but l think if it were me it would irk me if my mother persistently told people “ well she’s called after/to honour me you know” . Especially if she kept doing it in my presence and l felt compelled to correct her.
When your baby is born you may, in any case, think that the name doesn’t suit her anyway. But if you really are absolutely sure you won’t think that, l’d start telling people yes, you have chosen a name and it’s from literature. This will kind of prime them as it were. I agree with pps, do not tell anyone, anyone at all her actual name until she is born, then you can reinforce the D’Urbevilles connection .
lf your mother starts with the named-for-me stuff, just laugh and say ‘ l don’t think Hardy had you in mind ma!’