(Closed) Baby name sharing (this is long, sorry!)

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: Should couples share baby names, or is it too risky?

    Share with everyone, and ignore everyone's opinions

    Share with everyone, but tailor baby names toward popular opinion

    Share w/a limited circle of people that are very important to the couple, & ignore their opinions

    Share w/a limited circle of people that are very important to the couple, & tailor names to opinions

    Only share with one or two people the couple considers are 'safe'

    Don't share with anyone. This is a private and intimate decision only to be made by mom & dad.

    Wait until you have THE name picked out, people won't poo poo a name you've already 'settled' on!

    Other (explain!)

  • Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    When my SIL was pregnant with their son – they started telling everyone the name they chose.  It was set in stone.  However, she is extremely sensitive and after a few negative comments or different suggestions they stopped telling people the name.  When people asked they said “we have a few options but didnt decide yet”.  They ended up naming their son the name they originally picked.  This pregnancy they arent finding out the gender – and when they are asked about names they say they dont know…we dont know if they are lying or not.

    I never discussed this with my DH – but I think we will probably tell people the name in person to those we are close with.  We are both thick skinned – and don’t really care what other people say or think.

    Post # 34
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

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    @TwoStatesBride:  It depends on how well you handle having your name choices insulted!

    We knew if we had a girl, her name WOULD be Annabelle Mae (First and middle). Those are significant family names for us!

    When I told my Mom we had a girl name picked, she started CACKLING and went “MOO!”

    I replied “…What?”

    And she went “MOO! ANNABELLE? That’s a COW NAME!” (She grew up on a farm, to be fair)

    As it turns out, she IS a girl, and now I tease my Mom about her HILARIOUSLY bad reaction!

    Post # 35
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @TwoStatesBride:  We decided not to share.  I did tell my sister though, because she would be honest if she really hated it but not make me feel stupid about it.  I’m sure DH told one or two of his best friends too.

    Mother-In-Law is very pushy, so when she was hounding us about names, I told her we were going with Narnia for a girl and Bocephus for a boy.  Then we laughed and gave her a short list of potential names without revealing which we had chosen.  We just said something like ‘here are a few we are considering, but we haven’t made the final decision yet’ and she eventually got the hint that we weren’t sharing.

    FWIW, she ended up really liking our name choice 🙂

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    From talking to other moms, the least stressful route seems to be keeping the name a secret until the baby is born and named.  Everyone has an opinion and unfortunately people can be harsh about names they don’t like when they think there is a still a chance to talk parents out of using the name.  Once the baby is named and the birth certificate is signed, it’s a done deal and people can suck it if they don’t like the name.

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

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    @SweetartMD:  I love the name Henry!  That’s on our list too!  My DH mentioned it before and got stink faces from some of his family – but I still love it!

    Post # 38
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @BrandNewBride:  I love that story… I can’t believe she actually ‘MOOed’ at you!

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My husband was so in love with the name we decided on, that he told everyone. I’ve only really had positive reactions, thankfully. Regardless Hazel is her name, and it wont be changing. There’s no weird nickname, it’s a little old fashioned, but not in a horrible old-lady kind of way.  Some people will love it, some will hate it. I’m not naming our child for anyone else but us, so it doesn’t really matter.

    I think you have to be prepared for opinions, or just preface the conversation with how much you LOVE the name to the point that the other person would feel terrible to say anything bad. :p

     

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I think it depends on everyone’s situation!

    DH and I have picked out our future son’s name for a long time now. The biggest flack we get is he will have 3 names: A first, and two middle names (and then a last name, of course!)

    This comes from the fact that we have two male family names that are very important to us, but one CANT be used as a first name, and the other way around just doesn’t sound as nice? So we picked an “original” first name.  It’s a bit different, but nothing that he would be teased about badly. And it’s very meaningful for us.

    I would have no problem telling some sh*thead to shove it if they insult my name choice. “Oh, what a lovely thing to say about something so personal to us. Are you going to tell my son that to his face? No? Then why would you say it to me?” I also love the “well I get to name my child what I want, and you get to name yours what you want. Isn’t that nice?”

    Post # 42
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    i just tell everyone and ignore any negativity. I’m known for liking “bad names” or “weird names”. But I’m okay with it, I give them a normal middle name to go by later if they want haha.

    ie- I really really wanted to name both my sons Orion. I didn’t, but I still love it. You could even spin it all irish-y and say O’Ryan (I tried convincing my Fiance that way).

    Some people hate my sons names I’m sure, but I mostly get really positive feedback.

     

    Post # 43
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @TwoStatesBride:  Lol, true… we also threw in a few that weren’t on ‘the list’ just to keep her off our scent!

    Post # 44
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @TwoStatesBride:  I have NO idea, I don’t even think I KNOW someone named Henry! We just wanted to go with a more old school name and we thought it sounded great with our H last name! 

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    @MrsBaldEagle:  Yay! Don’t let what people think stop you! We still love it! 

    Post # 45
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We didn’t share, and it was great. Instead of telling people that “we know but we’re not telling,” we just said “we are down to a few, but are waiting until the baby arrives to decide for sure” (which was mostly true, anyway, we had a front runner and a “back-up.”)

    And, since we knew the gender (and shared), it was a bit more of a surprise when he was born. 

    No one pushed any further. 

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