Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2012 - Iowa
I think if you use Isabella that would be fine, and it was the first name you liked anyways. I wouldn’t use Lilliana as a first name if she does. UNLESS you were going to for-sure use different nicknames – Lily vs Ana. Assuming you are going to continue to visit your parent’s, it will get super confusing for everyone to be yelling one name for 2 girls.
My BIL’s named their boy a very similar name to our DS, just adding an s to the middle. They have the same last name, will go to the same school, ride the same bus, Grandma says their names wrong all time time and I’m sure that will continue. They actually said if we had used the name Haley for a girl, they would’ve used it anyways, which was enough of a reason for us not to use it.
Post # 17
Good Lord I would never tell a pregnant woman what names I like. Ever.
Or I would lie.
Post # 18
The only time you get to call dibs on a name is if it’s a family name that you’ve been vocal about wanting to use forever, and a close friend or sibling uses it. Otherwise, it’s just not a thing. There are tons of names out there, so I definitely wouldn’t use the same name for your theoretical child as her cousin.
Beyond that, it’s wise to keep names secret, both to avoid people being tempted to use them AND to avoid negative feedback. Fiance hates all names, and though kids won’t be for awhile, there was finally one we both liked. I made the mistake of telling my mother, who hates it of course. Lesson learned.
Post # 19
jazzyninja : Next time she asks what names you like, tell her you’re really on board with the “Old is New” trend and are trying to decide between Agnes and Gertrude.
(My apologies to any Agneses or Gertrudes reading. But come on, you know.)
Post # 20
I don’t understand the whole concept of stealing names or calling dibs. If cousins have the same name, people will simply say ‘op’s Liliana ‘or ‘sister’s Liliana’ when talking about them. The children themselves won’t care , when they are little they’ll probably think it cool and when they are grown up it won’t matter anyway.
Given you are not close to your sister anyway, l would go ahead and choose whatever name you want if and when you have a daughter. And, yes, stop talking about it. With any luck she’s having a boy.
Nothing to do with anything, but l prefer the traditional spelling of Lily and Liliana. I do’t think an additional L has any point.
Post # 21
Daisy_Mae : lmao. I should tell people these are our names. I wanted to keep the sex and name a secret until birth but Dh doesn’t want to keep the names secret. I told him I don’t want anyone’s unsolicited advice or opinions which already happened the moment he told his mom. He told her at breakfast and then later on she texted him asking how we are going to spell it because she thinks it should be Dillon not Dylan and he thought so too at the time. Then he asked me because he said this whole time he thought Dillon and I said absolutely not. It will be Dylan. I started a thread here needless to say, but yep. This is why you don’t share names with people who had no part in creating the baby being named.