(Closed) Baby Names and Disagreement

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 31
2733 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Everyone saying “veto” reminds me of the Friends episode where Ross and Rachel are trying to come up with a name for Emma.

And Phoebe says “Is anyone else starting to really like the name Veto?”

Lol. But, see, even Ross and Rachel went through this! It’s hard to compromise on names


Post # 33
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I guess I am lucky. My husband offered for me to pick the names (as long as he liked them) because they are getting his last name. We included one of his other family names but the rest are from mine.

Good luck! I am sure he will come around for you!

Post # 35
1635 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

“So, I really want a name that matters to me and reminds me of my family, the same way that you want your name used for when we have a son. You really want to be involved in picking the name of our first child, too and have some ideas for names and favorite names, as well- let’s think of how we can work this out so that we are both happy with our daughter’s name”.

He had a bad, immature reaction. I’d be tempted to respond in kind, by taking junior off the table for my son someday, but that really doesn’t get you anywhere. This should be a great process for both of you. Perhaps the family name you want is the first or middle name and the name he likes gets used for the other part of the name. Put both of your choices out there, try them out, and combine them. If he wants a family name for a boy, I would assume he would understand you wanting a family name for one of your children, too.

Post # 37
1451 posts
Bumble bee

Is there any way you could combine the two names that you guys love ie: the name you love for the first and his for the middle or vise versa? Or each of you write down names you love and pick one from each side?  

Post # 38
1149 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

artis80333:  I think most couples go through discussions trying to choose a name. We went through hundreds of suggestions and finally agreed on 2 that we both liked. I favoured one, he the other and we decided that we would agree which one to go with once he was born.  I ended up having a 36 hour labour and a very complicated delivery so my husband quickly changed his very determined mind and said you can pick the name, it’s the least I can do! LOL!



Post # 39
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Here’s what my friend did: make a spreadsheet of the top 500 SS girls and boys names. Each of you have your own list, and go through and delete all the ones you don’t like. Then compare lists. That’s at least a starting point for something you will both agree on. It’s a compromise. 

Post # 40
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

<address>Sometimes it’s easier to use family names (or a version of) for the middle names, and choose something with the times for the first name.  My grandmother and a number of older relatives had 2 middle names (pretty common many years ago) which gave a few more options for including names from both sides of the family.</address>

Post # 41
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Our deal was the kids’ last name will be his family so I get to use family names for the middle names and the first names are completely new with no family association.  Maybe try to appeal to him that way. You each get something and though life isn’t fair a husband should be.

Post # 42
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Darling Husband and I had a really hard time initially selecting a name. I wanted something unique (but not bizarre) and he wanted more traditional. I used babynamewizard.com to generate a list of names, printed the list out for each of us, then we went through it individually, crossing out definite No’s and circling Yes’s. Then we compared! It really helped to narrow it down while taking into account both our preferences.

Post # 43
3903 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

artis80333:  If the baby will have his last name you have final say in first name. Period. Even if you have 10 kids. If the name is hyphenated then it’s a 50/50 decision. U are doing all of the hard work, pregnancy, l&d, pp, bf, etc so you can veto as many times as u want. He can veto 1. Cause he contrinuted a microscopic part of his body to make a baby… So yeah. 😛

We arent TTC yet but we have talked about baby names. He wants to name our son(if we have one) after his father: William. The kids will also be getting his last name. He is lucky that William is like in my top 3 fave guy names (i’m gonna use Liam as nickname) so he can have the name no problem. I have final say on the middle name. If we have a girl she gets his last name and I have final say in her first and middle name, he vetoed 1 bame that was his ex’s first name and I’m “not allowed” to name our daughter that name which kinda sucks cause it was in my top 3 girl names but at the same time i dont wanna call my daughter by his ex’s name anyways so that’s fine. 

Post # 44
3611 posts
Sugar bee

artis80333:  Are you planning on having more than one? If so, maybe you can choose your daughter’s name now and he can choose baby #2’s name when the time comes (or vice versa). His reasoning doesn’t seem fair to me at all…it’s very “heads I win, tails you lose.”

Post # 45
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

There has to be a name you two can agree on. I hope you’re both willing to work it out. 

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