Post # 1
Good morning bees! Just looking for some advice. I am currently 13 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. We will find out in October what we are having. Both my husband and I love the name Preston for a little boy. The name has meaning to us as it is 1) the location where we got married, 2) across the road from where we bought our first home and 3) the neighborhood our former employer first started working in (we met at said employer.)
My sister and her husband have been TTC for over 7 years with no luck. My heart hurts for the pain they are dealing with. My sister and I are close, but definitely do not agree on everything in life. She would really like to use the name Weston for her son, when they have one. She has called dibs on that name ever since they started trying. She believes that the names, Preston and Weston are too similar and is “insisting” our mom “order” me to pick out another boy name.
I may not have a boy and she may not have a boy, so the issue could be mute. But if I do have a little boy, is it wrong that we name him a name that means something to my husband and myself? For what it’s worth, we live about 20 mins from each other and our kids wouldn’t be going to school together.
Post # 2
Picking baby names is so hard! I wouldn’t dwell on it too much since you don’t know the gender yet. Personally though, I think I would pick somethig different but I don’t think your sister has the right to try and force you to do so!
Post # 3
I think that if you do have a boy you should name him whatever you want. I love the name Preston and it holds special meaning to you and your husband. Furthermore you are pregnant and she is not. Maybe it’s because my sister and I don’t get along but you will have a child first and should be able to name him/her whatever you want. I think it is ridiculous that she is demanding you to pick a new name. My sister and I are both currently pregnant but I am 5 weeks ahead of her and she is demanding to see our list of Names. I won’t tell her bc she is the type to pick one of ours. I think you should stick to your guns and simply tell her that the name is special and you are sorry but for now it is still your top pick.
Post # 4
Lolasmomma: I would most def keep the name Preston, who cares if they rhyme? They won’t have the same last names, and while you two are sisters, you also have your own family units as well. It’s not fair of her at all to demand a different name over something so silly.
FWIW, my borthers name is Shane, our cousins name is Blaine… there’s never been an issue.
Post # 5
I would definitely use the name you love. There is no guarantee she would even have a boy, and the names are different anyway.
Post # 6
Please, do not worry about the names being similar. It really doesn’t matter.
Each of my mother’s three siblings had a son and named him David. It was never confusing or odd growing up.
Post # 7
I’d still use it. They aren’t brothers. Even if they were going to be the same age and in the same school or even class. I’d still say use it. If it was the same name… No. But if you both love the names who cares?
My mom has a son named Chance. She was annoyed when her sister named her son Chase a few years later but it’s not the same name, and no one else really even noticed (or cared) other than my mom. Personally, I wouldn’t do it unless it was the ONLY name that we agreed on or loved. But it sounds to me like you guys have a lot of history with the name and really want to use it, so if that’s the case. Do it.
Post # 8
Thank you ladies! That makes me feel better! 🙂
Post # 9
They aren’t the same name so I don’t see the problem. Yeah, they sound similar but who cares? I’d choose the name Preston and your sister will have to deal with it. Besides, if they do finally have a boy I’m sure she’ll be so overwhelmed with happiness that it won’t even matter anymore.
Post # 10
Lolasmomma: NO, it is not WRONG for you to name your unborn child the name you choose!! Whether it is the exact same name, or similiar to something somebody else wants to name their ONE DAY unborn child (your sister included!). Her defiance is stemming from a pain I will not pretend to understand, and one, that I think in time she will ‘forgive’/get over because she will love her new nephew, no matter his name, quite a bit.
FWIW, I have a boys name I have dedicated in my heart – for if or when we have a boy. My 1st cousin is having a boy, and is using the name. Secretly, I am annoyed, but outwardly, I could care less. There will just be two of that same name in our family 🙂
Post # 11
If they were twins, Preston and Weston might be a bit much, but they’re going to be cousins. Who cares. You can’t call dibs on a name for a baby that doesn’t exist and might not ever. Use Preston if you have a boy.
Post # 12
Your sister is being a bit immature. Preston and Weston is actually kinda cute for cousins. Name your child whatever it is that you and your hubby decide upon.
Post # 13
Lolasmomma: Why does this name-dibbing thing exist?! My brother and first cousin and grandfather all have the same name, and I’ve never seen my mother, aunt, or grandmother exchange dirty looks over it. Your sister’s just being silly.
Post # 14
As sad as your sister’s situation is, she is being ridiculous in attempting to veto a name because it sounds vaguely similar to something that she might like to call her imaginary baby. Call your child whatever you like.
Post # 15
Lolasmomma: Its been 7 years, and if I read correctly still no baby. What are you gonna do, wait around and see what happens with your sister before you start living your life? Sounds harsh, but eh, it is what it is.
Name the child what you want.
And very few people agree on baby names. Thats why a lot of people I know don’t tell ppl what the kids name will be for fear of backlash. Yet once the kid comes its fine.