Post # 1
My soon-to-be husband thinks I should stop considering names until we actually get pregnant. I think he’s worried it’s not going to happen for us for a long time, if ever, and I may be getting my hopes up. But I think it’s actually helping me stay distracted from all of the negative pregnancy tests just having something else to focus on and look forward to.
Is anybody else compiling a list of potential baby names while on the journey of TTC? Or am I jumping the gun? 🙁 This will be my first baby so I’m extremely excited, but then again, we are 9 months in with no luck. I want to be a mother more than anything, and I love to plan ahead. But I also don’t want to engage in anything unhealthy. Lol I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong until he brought it up. Opinions?
Post # 2
I thought most people who planned on having kids thought about names way before actually trying to have kids. I mean, it’s fine not to, but I also think it’s normal to. Is it possible that what he really means is that HE doesn’t want to think about names yet and would prefer that you not bring it up to him? Do you have girlfriends or family that you could discuss names with to give him a break if he feels he needs that?
Post # 3
I thought it was normal too! I’ve tried talking to him to see if he’s either unsure about having kids or overwhelmed with how often I talk about it (I admit I can be a little obsessive. Lol) But he swears he is just as excited as I am. He doesn’t seem annoyed or uninterested, but I probably could take it down a notch and talk about something else for a while. Lol
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
We aren’t even TTC and we’ve been talking names for years, even before we were married! I never found it weird, it’s fun. Keep thinking about names if you like!
Post # 5
My husband and I definitely had a list going in the beginning of TTC….but 3 years later, we never talk baby names anymore. It’s more depressing than anything. We’ve been going through fertility treatment for 2 years and baby names just are not on our radar anymore. I agree with above poster who said maybe your husband doesnt want to talk about. If it makes you feel better, have at it for sure, but as someone who has been there, just seeing that list in my notes app is painful. It might be better for your mental health if you wait.
Post # 6
When we had our first we had hemmed and hawed over names. Then with our second we thought only to make sure they had the same number of letters in their name. I’ve even thought of our next child’s name and I’m not pregnant
Post # 7
I had a list on my phone for about 2 years before we even started TTC! I think its fine to start thinking up names, as long as you don’t get attatched to any yet. We had a list of about 25 names we liked when we were TTC. We got down to about 10 when I got pregnant, then cut it again to 3 names when we found out the gender. We waited until the birth itself to pick one of the 3 names (although we already knew which one was our favourite).
Post # 8
Baby names is how I’m battling my baby fever! We keep talking about baby names we like, even of we aren’t quite TTC yet. It’s a bit of harmless fun for now, and we’re certainly not sharing them with anyone or telling anyone IRL what we’re doing!
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2015 - City, State
We had a list of names ready to go when we were TTC. Took us almost 9 months of actively trying to finally get pregnant. I don’t think it’s weird at all. Hell, I even purchased t-shirts for me and my DH and signs for our two dogs to wear around their necks several months ago – to have ready for if/when I ever got a BFP as a cute way to tell my husband. There’s no harm in being excited and planning for the future.
Post # 10
Totally normal and a fun pasttime. If your partner isn’t into it, don’t force it on him. My husband took a while to want to think about names and I drove him a bit nuts at first to the point he didn’t really want to talk about it because it felt like a chore. Keep it laid back, relaxed, and fun. On a side note we didn’t use any of the names we came up with when it actually came time to pick a name (we do it after getting the NIPT results back and learning the sex), but I think all the name talk made it easier to settle on what we did like the second we heard it. Both names we have chosen we saw, smiled, and were totally sure within that first minute of considering the name.
Post # 11
While it’s fun to think about baby names now (not TTC) and certainly I’d be excited to look into it more once we’re pregnant, I’m one of those people who would rather not get ahead of myself and think about what could be WHILE TTC especially if it’s been some time of trying with no success. I feel like that’s setting myself up for disappointment and also might feel like too much pressure.
I agree with PP, your husband might just not want to think about it or talk about it. Doesn’t mean you can’t look at names if you found it help you but perhaps not talk to him about it.
Post # 12
I had a list of boy and girl names for years before we started TTC! And when we finally got pregnant after 19 months, it was so fun to show my husband my lists and pick one out. It made things so easy haba
Post # 13
My fiance and I have had baby names picked out for years and we won’t be TTC until this October. This is a consequence of writing books together and learning each other’s favorite names – people chuckled at it, but we cherished the conversation. It brought us closer together, and it has been nice knowing that we have similar views on names 🙂
I don’t think I could marry a man that thinks Puff is a reasonable name for a daughter. Or Trouble. Or Maybelline or Tesla or Ferrari or North.
Post # 14
We aren’t going to try until March and we already have full names picked out that won’t change. Two girls names and one boy name so I don’t think it’s weird.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
We’ve had a boy and girl name picked out since way before we started trying. I think it’s totally normal! Sorry you’re having difficulties, we are too.