Post # 16
I think that if TTC becomes more difficult, and you reach a worse case scenario, it doesn’t matter whether a name is already picked out. That is an extremely difficult, emotional thing to go through regardless. No one finds out they can’t have kids and goes “thank goodness we didn’t have a name picked out.”
Thinking about names and happy things can be a positive thing in your life. If it was obviously causing you pain I’d suggest you stop, but it pretty clearly isn’t.
But I do agree with PP – for your husband, maybe thinking about names right now is difficult?
Post # 17
I wonder if your SO is similar to mine – he likes to think of one thing at a time so often our discussions are one step at a time and take longer to get to that point. For e.g, prior to engagement he didn’t speak much about marriage then after marriage has been talking about it heaps now that the wedding is over and done..but not quite to the baby names as now we’re focusing on a new car.. haha
Post # 18
- Wedding: August 2018 - Melbourne, Australia
jayrock : Same as us 🙂
We have lists of both boy and girl names we love, and we won’t be TTC until at least next year.
I don’t think it’s weird at all. It’s fun 🙂
Best of luck with your TTC journey, Bee.
Post # 19
spookybride : My husband and I plan to start TTC in July, we’ve been talking about baby names for years. Recently we’ve gotten more serious about narrowing down options so we have a boy name picked and narrowed down girls names to 3. We find it fun to pick out names, and figured it was a good idea to give us time to agree especially since he hates my favorite name and I hated his favorite name.
If your husband doesn’t find picking out names to be fun due to the stress of trying to conceive then I’d stop doing that for a while. Although I don’t think it’s an unhealthy behavior for you, it might be for him.
Post # 20
We aren’t even TTC yet for our second and I’m still researching girl names now that we’ve used our original name.
Do whatever helps you cope. For me, we had our boy and girl names picked since we first got together – so we referred to hypothetical future children by those names. When I got pregnant with our daughter I felt like I already knew her by that point because we had spoken of her by name for so long. In the event we have another child and it’s a girl I want to have that same feeling so I would like to pick a name in advance.
Post # 21
My husband and I occassionally throw out baby names in conversation. Nothing serious, but more creative. We will be TTC in a couple of moths, so it’ll get more serious when we are actually pregnant.
I don’t think it’s weird when you dream for the future. But, I can see where it can get discouraging if you are trying for a while.
Post # 22
spookybride : We started talking about baby names about 3 years before we started TTC… Before we were even engaged 😂 It also took us 9 months to get pregnant with regular temping and tracking. We were Team Green, and still didn’t decide on a girl’s name until I was 5.5 months pregnant. Good thing we were set, because we had a girl!
Post # 23
And FWIW, our daughter is 9 months old and plan to start TTC this year for our next… And we already have a boy and a girl name.
Post # 24
We talked baby names years before we started NTNP. We could never agree on a boy name, but easily decided on our girl name. Had a boy of course 🙂
If dh hadn’t been comfortable talking about it for whatever reason though, I would’ve respected that. It didn’t mean that much to me.