Baby \"Non\"Shower Invitation

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
7502 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’d actually prefer this to a traditional baby shower, and I’d give the host or hostess a call to see if they had specific requests for dishes to bring.

Post # 3
10242 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’d roll my eyes and the ridiculous poem but still go and bring a dessert (I always take desserts to a potluck).

Post # 4
47343 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would go and probably take a box of diapers. It’s clear they don’t want other gifts.

Post # 5
1492 posts
Bumble bee

Honestly I would be very confused and bring my dish, bottle of wine and a childrens book just to cover my bases. I would expect it to be a baby shower where people pretend its “cooler”. I’m all for bbq but since the while invitation is about the baby I’m assuming the baby is the star. If the idea is to have a bbq for fun then I would maybe phrase the baby as a sidenote (sorry, poor phrasing but hope you get the point). but to be fair, showers are not too common in my circles so this might be totally irrelevant.

Post # 6
1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’d go and bring a tasty sidedish, a card, and a giftcard to Amazon so they can buy things that they maybe realize they need but didn’t have already when baby comes

Post # 7
2828 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Yeah I’d probably just bring a kids book or two and not make a big deal about them, plus the dish. They are making it pretty clear that they don’t want gifts. The poem is a little cringey TBH but it conveys the point effectively. 

Post # 8
13902 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d also probably bring a gift card to Amazon or another baby store so they could get what they need or want later.  I would also bring a dish as the invite requests and bring a 6 pack or bottle of wine. 

Post # 9
8944 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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MrsLion :  Is this a second or subsequent baby? It sounds like they just want to have a get-together and celebrate, without people feeling like they need to bring presents — good on them! If it’s people you care about and want to celebrate with, I’d bring a dish and a probably a book signed with a greeting. The poem is beyond horrible but whatever. At least it’s not a beyond-horrible-poem asking for money. I’d go and have fun. Or if it’s someone you don’t care about that much, just send a card in the mail. 

If you received this OP, I dont’ think it’s anything to be judgey about (except the poem). (Not saying you are judging, but it sounds like you might be wondering if you should. No, you shouldn’t.) If you’re thinking about sending it, for the love of all things holy, get rid of the poem. It’s SOOOOO bad. So so bad. Just use normal english language to say “We’re having a potluck party. It’s not a shower, we have everything we need, just hope you can join us for some food and fun. Bring a dish if you’d like.”

Post # 10
409 posts
Helper bee

I would bring a dish and a cute children’s book that I’d write in/sign like a card. I would not bring any other gifts. 

Post # 11
7595 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It sounds like they just want to celebrate this new life but really dont’ want any gifts. I think that’s lovely! I’d bring some food and maybe a children’s book, or really maybe no gift at all. 

Post # 12
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would just bring a dish. I don’t think there is anything in here implying some secretly requested gift. If it hadn’t been for the potluck I would wonder if it was a secret gift request or they really didn’t want gifts based on who the person was. 

Post # 13
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I agree that the poem is cringey, but the idea is fine. Sounds like this may be a 2nd or subsequent baby, or they have already gathered/received all the “essentials” so they don’t want any traditional baby shower gifts.

I’d bring a dish (checking with the host to see if there’s anything in particular they’d like me to bring) and a card for the parents, and if I was very close to the parents-to-be, possibly with a gift card to Target or Amazon – someplace they could use to pick up diapers or other things as they are needed.

Post # 14
533 posts
Busy bee

I think the invite spells it out pretty clearly what to bring. I’m cheap so if someone tells me no gifts I’m not gonna fight them. I’d just bring the side dish and a card.

Post # 15
1956 posts
Buzzing bee

Love this 🙂 Like others have said, I’d bring a potluck dish, and maybe a giftcard to something for the parents, like a restaurant or something they like. Or maybe like PP said, a giftcard to amazon.

I personally love the poem! 😀 It’s awesome!

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