Post # 1
Okay I don’t even have a baby and Darling Husband and I won’t be TTC for another year at least.. but I have a question.
My co-worker has a 7 month old who still doesn’t sleep through the night. She says every time he wakes up he is hungry so she doesn’t want to let him “cry it out” if he actually needs something.
Is this normal..? When does the cry it out method apply, and how long do they cry before you cave and get them? Like I said I don’t even have a baby but I’m just reeeally curious! Darling Husband and I want babies in the near future and I have a bad case of baby fever but hearing her horror stories of not sleeping more than a few hours a night for the past 7 months makes me not want babies anytime soon…!
Post # 3
It really differs from baby to baby and from family to family. Some babies start sleeping through the night with no encouragement whatsoever from day 1; some kids don’t sleep through the night on a consistent basis for years. Some kids respond really well to methods like cry it out, others don’t. There’s just no real way to tell what your experience will be until you actually have a baby of your own. One thing I will say is that you can get used to anything, if you do it long enough, lol.
My daughter started sleeping through the night at 4 months, but then started waking up again at night from 6 months to 1 year. For us, teething was really hard, and since she got 12 teeth before her first birthday, we were up a lot at night. We never used any cry it out methods, and when she was ready, she started sleeping through the night pretty much on her own.
Post # 4
All babies are so different. My son woke up to eat until he was almost 12 months old. Cry it out doesn’t work with all kids my son is super spirited and the CIO method was not an effective method for him.
Post # 5
@LoveMySailor1018: I had no idea newborns ate every 2 hours – because my son was jaundiced I was asked to wake him every two hours at first, so I had an alarm all through the night. And I was breastfeeding, so no help from Darling Husband on that one, lol
Post # 6
My first daughter did not consistently sleep through the night until she was 3 years old. My second daughter began sleeping through the night at 3 months. I think it just depends on the baby.
Post # 7
My son will be 4 months in 5 days, he gets up at least once during the night to eat. We haven’t tried the CIO method yet, to me he is just to little yet. Technically gestionally wise he is only 2 months, he was born prematurely. And so for mildstones we have to remember he will be for the most part behind .
I agree with the PP’s it depends on the child.
Post # 8
Yes, every baby is so different. Mine is 5 months old and on a GOOD night he wakes up twice to eat. A bad night could be 3-7 times!
CIO is such a personal decision. Some parents do it early, some don’t do it at all. It really just depends on the baby.
Post # 9
Sounds pretty darn normal. My 7.5 month old wakes once to twice. We do let him fuss a bit to put himself to sleep at bed time, and I don’t get up at his first sign of wakefulness, but for us, he’s just not ready to go the whole night without eating.
You do kind of get used to, or at least numb to the lack of sleep. Somehow, yesterday I had to speak to 200 people running on 3 hours of sleep. No idea how I pulled that off.
Post # 10
Our son – now 17 months – started sleeping through the night by about 5/6 months I think – we slowly weaned him off feedings (no CIO). He pretty much goes down around 7/730 and we dont hear from him again until 630/7 the next morning!
oh and “cry it out” only works if you don’t cave. You have to decide your are doing CIO and then stick to your guns or you just make it worse! We did CIO around 1 year for bedtime as our son was needing to be rocked to sleep and we wanted to teach him to fall asleep on his own. We did CIO, one really hard night (45 minutes of crying, then passed out) and a couple naps and now he practically jumps from our arms into bed to sleep
Post # 11
I think they should be a little older for CIO. Newborns are usually just crying because they are hungry, and if they are hungry you should feed them. IDK why people let them cry at that young age.
Post # 12
Definitely depends on the baby. Some are great sleepers…some are not. We DID use the CIO method. It is still a work-in-progress, but we’ve had a lot of improvement because of it. I am only getting up about 2-3 times a night now. I’m tired, but not zombie-like anymore. You really do just get used to it. See my CIO journey at: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/cry-it-out-success-stories-failures-help
Post # 13
Our son slept thru the night from very early on (like 2-3 weeks). Then as soon as he turned 6 mos he started waking up at night – usually around this age a combination of teething, learning to crawl/sit up, etc keeps them up at night. He only recently has began to sleep better (he’s 8 mos now).