Post # 1
I live in nyc and my two most recent friends to have babies both had baby nurses. I feel like this is a very new york thing to do, and both of these friends are from the area (all of their friends have had them too!). I was just curious if people have had them and what the pros/cons are? I honestly never really considered it myself until one of my friends had a pretty serious post-birth complication and having the baby nurse there to watch her baby while she ran to the hospital was potentially a literal life saver….(I know this is extreme and unusual!)
On the downside, I know they are expensive, and I also feel like it would be weird to have someone else in my house and to not have that intenes bonding time with my baby – but on the upside getting sleep and having an expert show you the ropes does sound kind of nice…. would love your thoughts!
Post # 3
I do not yet have children, but my inclinations around child rearing are more in the vein of “maternal intuition above all else”. My best friend has two children that she stays home with on their homestead in Vermont. She had a homebirth with her second, cosleeps, and plans to breastfeed as long as her baby (now 15 months) wants. That is what works for her.
Go with what you feel will work best for YOU. You will be the mother of your children and because it is up to you and your partner to raise them, it is your choice how you go about doing that. Everyone has different ideas of childrearing and just because your friends choose to do something does not mean you need to. It’s all about personal preference 🙂 Trust your instincts!
Post # 4
Thanks Rosiebear – I am def not going to do anything because my friends do- never been my MO – but I am curious to hear about the experiences and thoughts of others who have had or contemplated having baby nurses so I can make the best decision for our family 🙂
Post # 5
My Mother-In-Law actually had baby nurses for each child. Baring any physical problems I personally would not do it (and to be 100% honest, I do judge people), but if it works for them and they can afford it- then go for it. Some people really value their sleep. In the end what other people do doesn’t affect me so different strokes for different folks. NMS, but (shrug).
Post # 6
Another option is having a doula. Doulas are trained in pregnancy, childbirth and infantcy and act as a resource for the mother as well as offering emotional support durring the transition of becoming a parent. It may be an option for you to have a doula who can visit you in your home after your baby is born to aid you with all the new information and emotion new mothers experince. It would be less expensive and invasive then a baby nurse…just an option 🙂
Post # 7
My mom wants to move in with us for 2 weeks to “teach” me the ropes. I’m not real thrilled about the idea (everyone I talk to says it’s better if you get the first couple of weeks, just you and your husband) but she is very adamant.
We had a nanny growing up. She didn’t stay over, but she was there all the time. I was 9 months old when my mom got pregnant with my brother so I’m sure it was nice to have a hand around.
Post # 8
When I was a baby my grandmother got a baby nurse for me so my mom could rest at night… my mom said it was one of the best gifts she ever got. I dunno… it’s not something that I personally would seek out, but I can see why some people would find it helpful.
Post # 9
It definitely seems to be the norm in certain NYC circles.
I don’t know, I can see both sides of it. On one hand, if you can afford it (I’ve heard they run about $200-300 a day), it seems like a great way to adjust to the huge change of caring for an infant, and to catch up on some sleep after the exhausting experience of labor.
On the other, I wonder if I’d worry that I was missing out on some middle-of-the-night bonding moments and time with my newborn that I’d never get back.
We’re not pregnant yet so we’ll have to wait and see when the time comes… but my friends and friends-of-friends do it too, Janna.