(Closed) baby planned in year and a half.. postpone wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are you willing to wait 3+ more years to get married?  If you get pregnat right away in a year and a half, it will take close to a year to have the baby and then you will have a newborn.  Do you want to wait that long to get married or do you want to try and have something smaller sooner?  Are you going to be able to have insurance for yourself and your baby since most plans won’t allow people who aren’t married to be added to your plan?  It all depends on what you want.

Post # 4
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

If that’s what you think is best, then go with it. 🙂

Some things to consider: Was it easy for you guys to get pregnant the first time? I wouldn’t postpone my wedding indefinitely for the chance of pregnancy, but that is just me.

If you think you could get your wedding planned for in a year or so, then maybe wait an extra 3 months before TTC? Or just NTNT? Just some thoughts for you.

Post # 5
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6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

What about a low-key courthouse wedding and then a lavish anniversary trip later (any maybe vow renewal)?  That way you still get married, still get to TTC when you want, AND still get a nice honeymoon.  😉

Post # 6
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I personally would want to be married before intentially having babies, but that’s just me!  I like the courthouse wedding now, but have a 1 or 2 year anniversary party.

Post # 7
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4824 posts
Honey bee

If you need a year plus to save and you arent going to try for 1.5 years, then why dont you plan to have your wedding about the same time you start trying and start trying on your honeymoon? The timing is pefect.

Post # 8
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Why don’t you start saving now for your honeymoon and get married in 12 months? That leaves you with 6 months to spare before having to TTC.

Post # 10
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@BushelAndAPeck:  why can’t you guys get married while you are with child? For your destination do you plan to get married with in U.S or out of the country? We are getting married in Jamaica so it will be our Weddingmoon, two for one!!! Its all inclusive too, for most resorts you can book your wedding and put a down payment down and have up until 60 days prior to your arrival to pay for it in full. I do think you should get married before having your second baby even if you go to the JOP.

Post # 12
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1089 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We were planning on having a destination wedding but we really wanted a baby so we gave our selves until the end of january to get pregnant. Well we got lucky and are having a small wedding here in January. Then the following year we are going to take our destination honeymoon and right after start trying for number two 🙂

I think if you want to wait to get married then by all means do so. For me I really want to get married before number two. I really want to have the same last name as my munchkins.

Post # 14
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1089 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@BushelAndAPeck:  Do you have your heart set on doing a destination wedding? We decided to do a small wedding in a city about 2 hours away from where we live. it is going to be immediate family and our closest friends.

Post # 16
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1089 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@BushelAndAPeck:  Oh I totally get that. I put my foot down and said no extended family. I am stepping on a few toes but I don’t want anything big. I want something nice and small. Our guest list is at 60 people (I have 5 sisters, so big immediate family) I know lots of the family is dissappointed but we don’t want a huge event with every one and their next door neighbor there. So I said no extended family and that is that. Such is life lol. Don’t get me wrong it is hard to not fall for the guilt trips, but stick to your guns and do what you want. if waiting is what you are ok with then wait. For me the wait would kill me I cannot wait to be his Mrs.

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