Post # 1
Hi everyone! My husband and I just got married this past November 2016 after 4 years of dating. I am unsure on how long we should wait before TTC. I think a year is a good waiting period but I am also considering earlier than that..since there is an age gap between the 2 of us. I’m 24 and he’s 40. We want to have 2 to 3 kids so I’m undecided if we should start trying now or wait..I don’t want hubby out of energy when kids get here lol help! What do you guys think or is there anyone out there in a similar situation. Thanks!
Post # 2
I’m 26 and had my daughter 3 months ago, and I was 25 at the time of my pregnancy and her birth. My husband is 27. He’s tired already trying to keep up with one baby at his age so I don’t think hubby’s age and energy level matters much. Women are geared more to be maternal and just get it done.
Are there more things you want to do as a married couple without kids? If so, I recommend doing those things and then have kids.
Post # 3
I guess I just don’t understand why some people feel insistant on some random “waiting period” after getting married to have kids. I think it’s different for everyone and you should have kids when you feel it’s right.
Certainly couples who haven’t been together long, or maybe didn’t live together before marriage might want to take some time to enjoy life and get adjusted. But if you’re someone who has already lived together for years and getting married was adding a legal piece of paper, I don’t really see how waiting a while changes things. It’s all a matter of when you’re ready.
Post # 4
DH and I pulled the goalie on our wedding night. The only reason to wait is if you have a specific goal or milestone you want to hit. “I want to own our house,” “I want to travel to x,” “We need to make x money to comfortably afford child care.”
Post # 5
Up to you. DH and I were together 6 years before getting married and another two before having a baby. We wanted to travel to specific locations and be secure in our careers beforehand. Plus, we were on the fence about its.
With that being said my dad was 42 when I was born (he’s still pretty active and in his 70s now). I never felt that he didn’t have a lot of energy. We’re having our first baby and DH is 35. It really does depend, but if you’re ready you’re ready.
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Post # 6
You guys have been together 4 years already, whatcha waitin’ for?