- moderndaisy
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
Married for 6 months now, both sets of parents and all siblings are starting to ask when the baby is arriving.
Fun times! Anyone else?
Married for 6 months now, both sets of parents and all siblings are starting to ask when the baby is arriving.
Fun times! Anyone else?
My family doesn’t ask (they feel we should be married for a while before having a baby). His sister asks, but we just tell them we aren’t ready yet (which is true). But when we are ready, I’m not telling anyone.
@texasmeredith: We actually didn’t get any comments until this week, believe it or not! I was honestly thinking what you said, that people thought we should be married for a while first and that’s why they werent’n saying anything. But I’m 100% with you, if/when we are ever ready I’m not telling anyone!
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: LOL OMG I remember you saying that before! I can’t believe it, wow!
Not just the parents; the friends and colleagues are worse! We don’t want to tell anyone in case we have problems conceiving, so we’re starting to have a hard time with some of the most persistant people…
@egb: Ugh that is so annoying! How do you ask people to stop asking? Gosh I mean I never ask anyone because I know how difficult and emotionally challenging it can be to try to conceive, so I am always sitting quiet and waiting for an announcement.
Oh and I have been asked by a few coworkers. Including a male coworker!
the first time i met FI’s grandmother she asked. i told her first we needed to get married- thinking this would stall her. she pointed to my hand and said, ‘you have ring, now make babies’!!! her english isn’t great, so maybe she meant to say it in a nicer way, but that’s what came out!! i couldn’t believe it!! for other people, ones that don’t take hints well, i find telling them that “practice makes perfect, and for the time being, we’re still practicing”, shuts ’em up pretty quick!
I kind of feel like you’re lucky – like MsAsB, we were asked on our wedding day as well. I can’t believe you had six months of peace! lol
The assumption is pretty bothersome, and I know we’ll be getting a lot of questions over Christmas. It’s still too early for us to start spreading the news far and wide though so we’ll just have to grin and bear it, knowing all the while that I actually am pregnant.
I was surprised how many people asked us at a cousin’s wedding recently, I would never be so bold as to ask someone that but apparently DH’s family has no qualms…Well, too bad for them bc it’s prolly not gonna happen for 2-3 years, which is what I told everyone…Such an “in your face” type of question tho!
I never got asked when we were having children. Now that I have one though, my mom has turned her attention to my brother in that department. I felt horrible for him. I was right there when it happened. I’m sure I’ll get questioned in a few years though.
@moderndaisy: I agree. When my husband and I decide to try for another, I’m not saying a word. They’ll know when I’m pregnant, but that’s it. I’m not even going to tell them the gender, though I want to know beforehand.
My freaking dental hygenist looked at me yesterday, congratulated me and then asked if we were having kids right away. Seriously?! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again:
When you’re single, everyone wants to know when you’re getting a Boyfriend or Best Friend. When you have a Boyfriend or Best Friend they all want to know when you’re getting married. When you get engaged/married they all want to know when you’re having kids. Good lord I swear we’ll never be able to make everyone happy.
@bakerella: So what happens after you have kids? What do they have to ask about then lol?
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