(Closed) Baby pressure is starting!

• bakerella
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: September 2010

@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I pray for a day they’ll be satisfied and leave me alone. Actually that will never happen. They’ll start asking when my kids are going to get BF/GFs, when they’re getting married, and when they’re having kids. It’s a vicious circle. So long as no one asks me when I’m going to kick the bucket I suppose we’ll be okay 😉

• guitargirl
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: September 2009

Amen!  I posted about this in another thread- someone at work I rarely see grabbed my stomach and said, “Not pregnant yet.”  OMG- was everyone raised in a barn?  There have been a few threads with good responses.  I like the practice makes perfect one!  I also like “that’s so sweet of you to volunteer to be our nanny/pay for college/etc.!” or “we tried this morning but it’s too soon to tell,” or “nine months after I get pregnant.” I was asked by someone at work recently (don’t have the option to be snarky) and said “we’ll see what God wants to do.”

• kayakgirl73
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: October 2009

We get asked all the time. Especially since we are older.

• katsupgirl
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: November 2011

His parents have been hinting since we started dating. it’s all in good fun so I don’t feel too much pressure. 

• SummerGirl21
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: June 2010

We’ve been getting asked since like a week after the wedding!  Husband’s aunt actually gave him a whole gift basket full of baby stuff for his birthday last month! Nothing like pressure!

• Brianne2010
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: July 2010

People started asking me when we were just engaged. Of course, no one ever asks my hubby… it’s always ME.

About 3 months after the wedding, one of my dad’s cousins actually walked up to me, put her hand on my stomach, and asked “So you got anything in there yet?” I almost died.

We’ve just started telling people, “No babies yet! Just lots of practice.” 

If they want to ask an inappropriate question, I’ll give them an inappropriate answer.

• missmouse29
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: June 2011

@MrsE.ToBe :

What your FIs grandmother said made me burst out laughing!

 

Even though we already have one kid, our family has been asking since he was about 6months old when the next one was coming along. At least both of my siblings are expecting now, so the focus is off us for a while.

• christalynn11
• 10 years ago

@Brianne2010: Us too – We both started getting the question during our engagement.

I had one person straight out ask us if we were getting married because I was pregnant – to which I replied, “No, we are getting married because we have been together four years, have a house, a dog and hello – we are in love?!”

And then I secretly wondered if I should lose a few pounds…

• trugem
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: December 2010

I get asked that all the time and I’m not married yet. We aren’t ready yet and we can’t afford it. FH’s Groomsmen told him how much day care costs today, and now we are going to be waiting for years.

• LoveHappy
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: May 2009

@guitargirl: OMG… “We tried this morning but it’s too soon to tell!” That is HYSTERICAL! I think I might have to use that one on my husband’s family the next time they ask… which is every other week!! HAHAH!

• JsDragonfly
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: December 2009

We got those questions almost immediately.  Funny thing is, we were apart the first 10 months of marriage.  So, when people started hounding me, I would say, “And just how do you suggest I get pregnant when the DH lives 1,000 miles away?” LOL

• PrncssDva
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

I posted about this right after I got married.

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sick-of-people-asking-when-the-babies-are-coming-i-am

 My family doesn’t ask…it’s been more outside people. This is one of the most annoying questions EVER!! We have only been married for 2 months….why has this question been coming up? We’ll have babies when WE are ready!

• musthavedietcoke
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: March 2011

I think some people are just trying to make conversation and that’s the natural cliche topic that comes to their minds…..

OTHERS…such as ILs…ahem…… genuinely have an opinion on when you should be having kids and/or want to discuss that specific topic very badly. those are the frustrating ones……. we still have a few months until our wedding. i’ve just been kind of laughing it off so far…if it continues after the wedding i am going to politely ask not to be asked anymore.