Post # 1
Okay, I have a question.
I am 10 weeks pregnant, and started a private registry on amazon.com so that I can remember the things I find that I like (especially if I hear a certain brand of something is really good). Now, all of the stuff I’ve found it either all online, or an array of stores. And I live in rural midwest, so we don’t even have a buy buy baby near us and I’m not fond of the selection at babies r us or target.
Here’s the issue – we all know that the majority of people are last minute shoppers for showers.
Case in point: I hosted my sister’s baby shower not too long ago, the night before the shower I checked her registry and only 3 items had been purchased. The next day, she had over half her registry fulfilled.
Now, I’m really worried that no one will end up getting me the specific items I register for because it’s all online.
What should I do? settle for the lesser-quality items at big brand name stores?
Post # 3
I live in the rural midwest also and most people if they can’t walk into a store and buy it off the registry they will just pick out something they like. I would do an additional registry close to your family with basic items that you will need.
Post # 4
I will definitely be checking this thread b/c I would like to know as well…
We want to CD so I’d like to be able to register for some of the needed items and we don’t have a store store that carries anything for Cd’ing here.
Maybe if the shower invite goes out early enough and the online registry info is on the invite?…
Post # 5
I spent a lot of time registering at Babies R Us and it was the only registry I had. They suggest that you register for at least 100 things to give your guests options. I did that and still only got 20 things off of my registry. Most of those were little things that my aunts bought to make up a basket. From my experience, people are going to get what they want regardless of what you need. We had several people who called and asked what I needed. (Seriously!? This is our first child. We need everything. We created a registry!) Those people still bought what they wanted.
Either way…I do think people are less likely to buy off of an online registry. You can at least give them the information for your online registry and maybe they’ll buy those things at other stores?
Post # 6
@runsyellowlites: We will be cloth diapering as well, and so is my sister. But my mom bought the CD stuff for her because she knew that’s what she wanted/needed the most.
Actually, I made the invites for my sister and I put the online registry info on there (her CD stuff was all online), and nobody bought from it (my mom was last minute because she wasn’t sure if someone would buy it or not).
I know that with my relatives, a lot of them like giving whatever they want – like my grandma and aunt are quilters and make lots of blankets, burpcloths, stuffed animals etc and I LOVE that because it’s so personal. But there will be a good amount of stuff we need as well!
My sister didn’t get a stroller and now she has to budget for that, she didn’t get a playpen either and she needed that for the trips they’ll be taking to visit her DH’s family. And they were online things.
I just hope I’m not setting myself up for failure. There is no store that carries a lot of the stuff I want – especially since I would prefer for a lot of the items to be organic or all-natural.
Post # 7
Like you, I live in the Midwest and most people I know like to physically go to a store to buy baby and wedding gifts. Last year, my best friend created an Amazon registry for her baby shower and virtually no one got her anything off it. She got a lot of clothes and cute items, but not the ones she registered for.
I’m registered at Babies R Us and Target. I think you should take a look at one or the both of those and you might be surprised at what you find. Both stores carry a wide selection, so you should be able to find a few higher quality or all natural items.
Post # 8
I will be watching this thread too. I don’t live in a rural area, but I want to register online because I want to register for some CD’s, and Amazon carries them. Also, I hate Babies R Us (We don’t have Buy Buy Baby) and I’ve heard bad things about Target’s return policy. I personally don’t think you’ll get as much only registering online though, particularly if most of your guests are a generation or two older than you. I myself at least am going to probably suck it up and register at Babies R Us and Amazon. And maybe Pottery Barn Kids but only if there are things I really want from there (unclear). I also love the store Giggle and have considered registering there. I really have no idea. When are we supposed to register, by the way?
Post # 9
I live in a rural area and for me it was pointless to register for the little necessities. If I could go back again I would have only registered for the big items and not waste my time on searching for the little things. I can’t tell you how many people got me one outfit and a stuffed animal??????? and considering she was a suprise, and we had to move our wedding up you would think people would have helped out with the necessities instead. people are going to get you what they want.
Post # 10
I used the amazon registry, and you can make it universal, for instance there is a good deal on a stroller at walmart.com, so i clicked universal registry and added it to my amazon baby registry so its the best price and all on one registry. I too live in a rural town, less than 8,000 people so online is the best way for us. Honestly i always order online for wedding and baby gifts you can find good deals, free shipping which for me is cheaper than going to the store i have to go an hour each way.
My shower invites just went out last week so we shall see.
Post # 11
I had an amazon registry as my only registry and people bought off of it. Not everyone but that never happens. Between taxes and free shipping amazon ends up cheaper so I felt better about making my registry there. Only a few people got us cloth diaper items even though I tried to put a ton of diaper stuff on there but a lot of other stuff got bought. You could always have a box store registry in addition if you’re worried.
Post # 12
I did registries at Babies R Us, Target, and Nurtured Family (for CD and accessories). That way most people could either buy in store or online. As PPs stated, people are going to get you whatever they want regardless of where you register. I only received my cloth diaper stash from my mom because she knew it was what I really wanted. Hopefully people will include gift receipts so you can return as much as possible and get things YOU want instead. Maybe put a little note or ask the hostess to make sure people know that gift receipts are appreciated in case you are blessed with multiples of any item. That way it doesn’t sound demanding but still provides a little reminder for people.
Post # 13
We were in the same kind of situation. We ended up registering at Target and BRU. Another option to think about is Kohls but they mostly have clothes and a few toys which is a waste of time to register for since people will buy you want they want to buy anyways.
We knew going into this that it would be hard for people so we pretty much bought all the big stuff ourselves. I got a lot of it used which saved a good chunk of money. A few people asked to buy us specific things (stroller, changing table, and crib) and we were able to tell them specifically which one we wanted and they ordered and had it shipped to us.
At our shower we got a good amount of stuff from Target and even some things from BRU. Most of it was under $50 though but that is fine, thats still totally stuff that we need!
Post # 14
Most people won’t buy off your registry anyway – they’ll end up getting clothing.
Personally I don’t like online-only registries because if I’m going to a shower I don’t want to have to pay for shipping.
The one thing you can do if you get stuff from Target and BRU is return and buy basic things like diapers, bottles, etc.
Post # 15
I know this doesn’t happen 100% of the time (case in point: your sister), but I have never been to a baby shower where more than a guest or 2 brought gifts on the registry. 99% of the gifts are always clothes–including at my 2 (as I expected). Don’t worry or spend lots of time figuring out where to have your registry– except for as you mentioned you’ve been using it– a place to track the things you want to purchase.
Post # 16
I regestered at BRU and got almost everything and way more. I did have a huge shower… but people will buy cute baby things you dont regester for because being in baby stores and seeing cute outfits or stuffed toys theyll pick itup… but I would do a combation regester at amazon and at a brick and morter store but regester for the smaller items that they have because last minture shoppers in my experance are not the big gift buyers…