Post # 1
Darling Husband & I went to Babies R Us today to do our registry.
There were a couple women shopping off of someone’s registry that we were near a couple times during our visit.
The first time I overheard their conversation, they were insulting the mother-the-be’s choice of registering for a Rock N Play. “All it does it rock, that’s it? That’s stupid. Why did she registry for that? Did she know all it does is rock?” (Side note: Darling Husband & I have a Rock N Play on our registry, I’ve heard people love it because it’s so portable to move the sleeping baby around the house.)
Darling Husband & I were in their proximity again over by the swaddling blankets, they were talking about how dumb the Swaddle-Me and Miracle Blankets were. (Again, I’ve heard great reviews on these.)
I feel bad for the mother-to-be. Of course she won’t know about their conversations, but it seemed the mother-to-be did her research and selected her items carefully, only to have them insulted and disregarded by her family members.
Post # 3
ehh. I get why that would be upsetting because you want some of the same stuff.
But people have opinions. They voice them to friends and they were definately friends if shopping together. Likely they dont have kids or had kids a long time ago. Your friends are probably judging your choices to. That is what people do. Judge and have opinions. They may be commenting on color choice, price, selection, etc. which means I wouldn’t feel bad for the mother to be. I have never met a person who does not have an opinion of a group of friends where they agree 100% of the time.
Heck, I bought something off a wedding registry that I thought was a terrible waste of space and told my husband so when I bought it. It doesnt mean I think any less of my friend. Its just not a choice I would have made.
Post # 4
@abbyful: That’s just plain rude. Why does anyone care what she registered for? If they didn’t like it/think it was useful, they didn’t have to purchase it for her. Sheesh.
Post # 5
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Post # 6
@yoaglo: Go away. No one is falling for this.
Post # 7
@lefeymw – I didn’t care that that it was stuff I registered for too, I have my reasons for registering for the things I did. I just thought that it was a bit much to be loudly carrying on and on in the store about how stupid various stuff was while they were shopping. I think a comment like “huh, I think we should see what else she wanted” would have sufficed. I found it not only rude to the mother-to-be, but also to the surrounding shoppers.
Post # 8
I think it’s rude to make comments like that. I’m fine with people having opinions.
When SO and I were shopping off his sister’s baby registry we were more confused than anything else! We would look at something and be like ‘umm wtf is that?!’ haha it was a lot of fun!
We didn’t question anything although SO did question why she had 18 plug covers on her registry list when he knows she doesn’t have that many plugs in her house. But y’know, never anything mean like ‘why would she register for that’ or anything negative about the things she registered FOR
Post # 9
yea it’s sad that people act like that.
Post # 10
I used to work the registry desk at BRU and what you heard is not bad at all! I had people come in and make me do their shopping for them then when they realized that they didn’t like the parents-to-be choices they’d leave the full cart and go buy a bunch of clothes that will be completely the wrong season for when the baby is born. Some people only think about themselves even while shopping for others.
Post # 11
Eh, I guess I would have just shruged my shoulders and moved on. Like PP said everyone has a right to their opinion. More than likely those two ladies don’t have children or have older children. I was at Babies R US also today and it was a mad house. I overheard a few comments on things, same thing was happening people picking up or registering for stuff. What they want/like is not what I was looking for. Not a biggie..
Post # 12
@dcdt212: People are seriously so strange about registries. They are there for a reason people. Not everyone wants a pink or blue explosion in their kid’s closet…especially bathing suits when they are born in October! *sigh* End rant. I just feel bad for all of my friends whose relatives did that to them and know to never do that to anyone! haha.
Post # 13
I think that’s rude…I mean I would be offended if I would have heard just because I had the stuff on my registry too. I’ve been researching baby gear/items for weeks now and won’t be registering for a while, but if I heard someone comment rude things about how dumb something was/or pointless whatever it may be I’d be hurt. I’m sure people had stuff to say about our registry when we registered for our wedding but we put on there what we needed and some things we wanted…if people don’t want to buy it they don’t need to, but they should keep the rude comments to themselves.
Post # 14
People did similar things with my wedding registry. A family member of mine ran into my sister-in-law at Macy’s and was apparently purchasing a bridal shower gift. The family member criticized me to my sister-in-law for the prices of the kitchen implements that I registered for. In particular, she went on a 5 minute rant about an $12 Martha Stewart Spatula. She then proceeded to purchase said spatula, and at my bridal shower when I opened her gift she made the announcement “I only got you two things because the spatula itself cost $12”. SERIOUSLY??? You’re going to ANNOUNCE that??? Why did you buy it in the first place??? I was registered at Target and Bed Bath and Beyond as well, so she had options…. But I guess if you purchase something at Target it leaves you with little to complain about.
I think some people are naturally critical of others when it comes to what people register for. A friend of mine was complaining the other day that she went to a shower and the mother-to-be only registered for items that were around $25 and under. I guess she was looking to purchase something in the $75 range and would have to buy a bunch of little things. At the same time, I’ve heard people complain that someone didn’t register for enough “affordable items”, and that all the things on the registry were too expensive. You can’t please em all.
Post # 15
thats so lame of them…..who cares what the mom wants? JUST GET IT! I remember when I went shopping for a mom-to-be this summer (i wasn’t pregnant nor was I ttc) and I was so not in the baby mood….I just went in, picked the first thing I saw on the list (a boppy pillow) and left. Turns out she loved it (because she picked it!) …I LOVE LOVE LOVE when moms have registrys because I don’t have to sit there and think about what to get them….it’s all right there on the list:)
Post # 16
It could be a kind of…cultural maybe? My family definitely does that. If they don’t like someone, even slightly, they will talk badly about all of that girl’s choices behind her back. I think it’s how they can be catty without being outride rude, even though it’s pretty rude. Sort of like how some people say a lie of omission isn’t really a lie?
Notice that I said girls. They don’t turn the sharp tongue on men for some reason. It’s really weird, I don’t buy into it but I listen to it a lot.