Post # 1
I made an Amazon registry this week with items mainly from Amazon and a few from Babies R Us and Target.
My mom scrolled through it today and said it’s not enough stuff and that I needed to add more for the baby’s first year. I added some more baby first year things, like toys, spoons and feeding stuff, pool floats, bathtime, books, etc. I made sure to have things in all price ranges, from $3 to $200.
I have now 4 pages of registry items on Amazon (almost 80 items) and although it’s our first baby, it just seems kinda “gift grabby” and excessive to me. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’d LOVE to have everything bought and paid for, but I don’t expect it and I don’t want those checking out our registry to think I expect it. Also, most of my friends are on their second or third baby, so their registries have been very sparse – just a few updated things here and there – so mine looks INSANE compared to theirs.
To be fair, this is the first grandchild and first “new baby” on both sides of our family AND we live 4000 miles away (and will be moving even further away after the baby is born), so I understand that family and family friends are probably going to go a little crazy and buy a ton of stuff for us (which I will be forever thankful!), but I don’t want to come off as greedy.
What should I do!? How much is too much for a registry? Am I overthinking this?
Post # 2
How many at the baby shower? For 20 is might be too much, for 200 it isn’t enough.
Post # 3
cooperlove: Everyone knows you don’t expect THEM to buy everything on your list. They know multiple people are likely to buy stuff, but nobody knows exactly how many people. So, if you have a lot of items on your registry, the most likely reason is, you have a lot of friends and family. If they”re all common, reasonable things, nobody should care or judge. There’s nothing TO judge or care about. Registries only look gift-grabby if they’re made up of expensive or extravagent things, or stuff that’s not usually on a registry, like putting an XBox on a baby registry or something. If it’s all normal baby stuff at various price points, you’re fine.
Post # 4
I think it all depends on how many are coming. Also, you typically get a “completion coupon” to finish your registry. Not sure if Amazon offers anything like that. So if it’s stuff you’ll buy yourselves anyways, it doesn’t hurt to have it all on the registry
Post # 5
Yeah, four pages does sound like a lot. You could start with a moderately-sized registry, but keep an eye on it and add more items if needed, once about 80% of items are purchased.
Post # 6
When We registered, the consultant said to make sure we had 3 to 4 items per person invited to the shower. It is always good to have too much, than not enough. I don’t think it comes off as gift grabby. These are likely things you need, and a lot of parents take advantage of registry completion programs because they have to have items- so having lots of stuff is always a good idea.
Why don’t you have a friend who has kids take a look at your registry so you can have some suggestions on things you’ve left off that you might need.
Post # 7
theatrejulia: It sounds like there are at least 3 baby showers in the works and my side of the family are doing a “long distance” baby shower (where they send us stuff via the mail and we open it and take pictures/video to send back to them). So, like 50 or so people between all of the showers…?
Daisy_Mae: Okay, that makes me feel better. Yes, everything is for the baby directly, no Xboxes or anything like that.
Post # 8
countrygirll: Yes, they do.
Kazza: Okay, I’ll keep an eye on it and see if stuff gets bought.
smoocheepoo: That’s very true. And that’s a good idea – it’s been a busy few weeks and I *just* created the registry like 3 days ago so once things calm down, I’ll see if a friend can check it out.
Post # 9
I had about that for my baby, and he’s he first grandchild as well. I don’t think it’s too much at all. And of course it’s unfair to compare your registry to other people with multiple children, they already have most of these things! You’re starting from scratch! Having items for babys first year is totally acceptable, esp since it’s your first and you’ve kept the prices affordable. I don’t think you need to change a thing
Post # 10
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I think that’s fine-people like having choices, but you might want to have a mom friend take a look, to see if there are items you won’t really use.
Post # 11
I don’t have a baby, but LOVE when people have lots of options. I hate trying to buy a baby gift and all that’s left is a random pack of onesies and a bottle of baby laundry detergent. I say put MORE on for 50 people. give everyone at least 3 different items, so 150 items total (in my opinion). especially with babies, I think people want to ‘like’ what they send you. Wedding registries I don’t mind buying laundry baskets and a broom, but for a baby I want to get to gift ‘fun stuff’
Post # 12
cooperlove: it doesn’t offend me in the least when I see gigantic registries! It just means I have more to choose from; it doesn’t make me feel pressured to buy more items.
Post # 13
I don’t think 80 items is too much at all. My sister had like 9 pages and got most of it over time!
Post # 14
My daughter just did her registries. She put her crib and stroller on hers, knowing she was going to buy them herself, just so she could get the store’s gift card rebate on regisrty items. In the end, she gets a certain amount in gift cards from items purchased off her registry. I agree with PP, I want to give gifts that I like, not just the leftovers. No one thinks you expect to recieve everything on there.
Post # 15
It’s not the size of the registry that is a problem (well it kinda is). It’s the three showers and a video shower that’s too much. I think you need to rein these folks in and limit it to 2 events (even if one is online). 50 people? Too many. An outsider looking in would certainly form some judgy opinions based on your event schedule. It’s over the top even if it is all done with the best intentions.