- 1 year ago
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
I wouldn’t really care if someone did this, giving cash is easier for me anyways. By creating a registry you’re still asking people to spend their money on you, so I just don’t see this is being anymore tacky than having a registry. We didn’t register for our wedding because we personally don’t feel comfortable having people spend money on us just because we decided to get married, and if we have a baby we won’t be creating a registry and won’t have a shower of any kind.
If you did this I would just skip the whole opening of the presents stuff and stick to games or whatever.
OP, one thing that helps with a baby registry is that you really don’t have to go as deep into it as a typical wedding registry. I’ve got maybe 30 things on my baby registry right now. Sure, it’s got a few big ticket items (and if close family or a group of friends want to get together and buy it, that’s great, otherwise we’re taking full advantage of the completion discount!) and also a handful of smaller items. It’s not like you need to register for every single onesie the baby will need (as opposed to say, registering for like a full set of china or silverware on a wedding registry). I’d recommend choosing a few items in colors you like and people will probably make their own choices from there. Remember that a shower is about physical gifts- and especially at baby showers people like to buy cute things!
I don’t get why you can’t just register for the things you want? Why do you need $500 worth of gift cards to go buy $500 worth of things when you can just put the $500 worth of things on your registry and let people choose what to gift you.
Yeah, you will get somethings you didn’t register for but you don’t get to dictate or mandate gifts. I get annoyed when people say “we got things we didn’t really want or need.” Like what, how entitled can you be? Why do you get to decide a GIFT isn’t good enough because its a pink tutu and you only wanted gray onesies? It’s a gift dangit! If you don’t like it, quietly exchange it. There’s no need (IMO) to send out an invite that basically says “Please come have sandwiches, cake and punch and bring $50 cash with you.”
HI everyone, Original Poster here! So last night we announced to my in-laws that I was expecting. It was a really sweet announcement with lots of happy tears since my sister-in-law’s one month old baby will have a cousin so close in age. Anyway, they told me a bit more about the registry they had. It identified the items they wanted but asked for contributions towards the item instead of asking for the whole item outright – however, the items weren’t specific – so it was like “contributions towards our stroller!” but not “Uppa Baby Vista” for example.
Anyway, I agree with everyone, I don’t think it is for me for the many reasons outlined by all the helpful responders.
I guess a follow-up question is what big-ticket items did you feel comfortable putting on your registry for people to get as a group or for close family to get? I feel like most of the stuff should be small items.
On topic: I think it’s tacky. And that reasoning makes no sense. You have complete control of the registry, so you can put all the things your heart desires on it.
But more permissive etiquette sources justify them on the grounds they are not list of things you are asking for, but items you, yourselves, are collecting. Friends search them out proactively, through a close friend hosting a shower, through a link on a third party website, through word of mouth etc.
According to this logic, you are not asking for anything, though again, I disagree.
But if you are going by that theory, I personally don’t see why you could not have a range of items at different price points. IMO the bigger debate is in having any registry at all, not what’s on there.