(Closed) Baby right after wedding or wait?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

We waited 3 mths and then started trying… got preggers right away and will be due right around our 1 year anniversary this coming April.

We had other timeline reasons for not waiting, but ideally I think a couple should take the first year and just enjoy each other and grow into their marriage. Pregnancy can be tough on a marriage… feeling like poo, strained expectations on both husband & wife, not wanting sex, and of course getting ready for baby.

Sheesh… no wonder I’m having a day where I’m biting off everyone’s head. lol

Post # 18
6468 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

We actually started trying a while before the wedding, since we knew we’d have difficulty – and here we are, months later, still trying!

In a perfect world, I would’ve been knocked up after the wedding. 

Just remember that sometimes falling pregnant can take time!

Post # 19
3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Our situation’s a bit different, as we’re not having biological kids. We’re currently living below the poverty line and have student loans and whatnot to pay off, so we definitely want to get that taken care of and have a house before we foster or adopt. So, we’ll be getting started on the whole having kids things around our ten-year anniversary at the earliest.

Post # 20
7768 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We waited and (are still waiting) and I am SO glad we did.  The first year of marriage is stressful and an adjustment. 

Post # 21
1356 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I didn’t read any replies, but do what you and your soon-to-be husband want to do. If there is one thing I hate right now, it is getting unasked for opinions that myself and DH should be enjoying our marriage and waiting years to have babies!

we were married in July and will start ttc in January. I’m sure there are people in our families who think we should wait. but we just had this discussion a few weeks ago, and DH said,

“if you keep thinking about what everyone else tells you to do, and what everyone else thinks you should want you’re going to end up living someone else’s life.”

it’s so, so true. if you and your Fiance want babies, go for it! 🙂

Post # 22
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I really hope we start trying right away, just gotta get my fiance to warm up to the idea a bit more. I’m having major baby fever. We’ve been together for 4 1/2 years and lived together for the last 3 years, travelled a lot etc. so I don’t feel like we need to wait to enjoy our first year as newlyweds. We’ll see though!

Post # 23
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

we are trying right after the wedding!! so excited to have a little baby!

Post # 24
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@QBbride: I wanted to start right after the wedding, but DH is still recovering from all the wedding stress. He told me he’ll be ready in 6 months, but now is saying we can maybe start in 3 months, we’ll see… so I’m hopeful! We’ve been dating and living together about the same amount of time as you, 4.5 yrs, 3 years, so I don’t feel like things are terribly different (though I do feel a little different (better) being married!). I’ve been off BCP for 4 months now and am going to start tracking this month so that I’ll know what’s going on when he’s ready. I’m 33.5 and want at least 2 kids, so I want to get this show on the road!

Good luck to all of you TTC soon!



Post # 25
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mari328: We are actually going to start “trying” two months before the wedding… Our ages at the time will be (32 and 36)…. we both have degrees, a house, good careers, traveled around for years, etc…. we are more than ready! Plus we are looking at our two week honeymoon as sort of our last “real” vacation alone before the kids come… 🙂

 I have been on BC for 13 years so I “think” it will take us some time to get pregnant BUT we are fully aware that it can happen during that time and we are prepared (and actually hoping it happens sooner rather than later)”…. WE are soooo excited! We wish the wedding was earlier than July so that we could get started now……………. WE definitely have baby fever!!!!!!

Good Luck to you!!!!

Post # 26
2410 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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Gosh, the similarities are almost frightening!!!

We too made a split second decision one night to go for it, and bam. Here we are 🙂

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