- 7 years ago
Hi mommies to be!
So I have this stituation. A friend of mine (we aren’t super close). We used to be and used to have a nice friendship but as we got older she became very tit for tat with things. When I got engaged to my ex, she stopped talking to me, I mean she didn’t do it in a way that was like screw you but I told her I was engaged and then hardly saw or spoke to her and then I later found out that she couldn’t deal with the fact that I got engaged. Needless to say as soon as I broke it off she was back to talking and wanting to see me again. Then she got engaged and the world revovled around her, even though things were going on in my life it didn’t matter because she was getting married. She had a 3 year engagement so you can imagine how daunting that was! 8 months after she got married I got engaged and she became weird with me again and has since my wedding. I invite her to do thngs all the time and she makes up excuses or doesn’t get back to me, so we haven’t seen each other in ages. Then all of sudden she started contacting me, emailing me alot, and kept insisting that we make plans and get together. I was putting it off and honestly have been really busy so we haven’t connected but have emailed back and forth more often, but just simple chit chat.
I then announced my pregnancy and told her as well. She completely ignored that I even told her I was pregnant for over a week. Then I got a text saying I got your email I’ll email later. I then get an email back saying she is pregnant. I write back congrats and how happy I am for her and since then it’s been all about her pregnancy, and it’s like I am not expecting as well. I asked if she wanted to do a preggo class together and she wrote back that she was going to do her own classes. It just seems that she is annoyed that I am pregnant too.
Anyways, she emails me last week to tell me that a date has been picked for her shower, invites will be sent in the next few months. I say okay thanks. Tell my Darling Husband later and I totally forget that it just happens that is the day we have planned to go visit his fiends and their wives and it’s been planned for awhile. It’s a big deal to my Darling Husband and he really wants to go and so do I , we don’t get to see his group of friends often because of everyone’s schedules and living out of state so it was a date that worked for everyone.
But now I don’t know what to do. My Darling Husband wants me to tell her sorry can’t go and so do I, I feel like at this point wy should I care, but then in a way I feel bad, but not really if that makes sense. I think I’m more afraid of the backlash it will cause, her mother was ruthless durning her engagement so I can only imagine if I don’t go to her shower they won’t go to mine, which is fine by me, but ahh I don’t know. What would you all do?