(Closed) Baby Shower BEFORE or AFTER baby?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is a baby shower better BEFORE or AFTER baby's arrival?
    Before : (47 votes)
    84 %
    After : (5 votes)
    9 %
    Doesn't matter : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Every baby shower I’ve ever heard of has taken place before the baby was born.

    Post # 4
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    I think it might be useful to check in with the parents-to-be about what they need. We’re due in April, and we already have most of the things we’ll need for a newborn. We received a ton of newborn stuff as Christmas gifts from family, bought some stuff used, and inherited a lot of other things like clothes and blankets. I already have probably twice as many 0-3 month sized clothes than I need, and my shower isn’t for another month! There are also lots of things that we’ll need, but that I’d rather wait to buy till after the baby- I’d rather try out a friend’s swing or bouncer before buying one for our kid, we’d rather do a cloth diaper trial right after baby and then decide which brands we want, etc. So personally, I would have preferred to do ours probably 4-6 weeks after the baby is born. However, if there’s a lot of stuff that these parents would need right away that they don’t have yet, I think it makes good sense to do it now!

    Post # 5
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @maryjane: Even though I voted for before, I think that in your case it may be better to do it after. I know that I was SUPER uncomfortable 6 weeks before my due date and I really wasn’t in the mood for a party OR very many visitors. 

    The new “trendy” thing to do now is host a “Sip and See” where people come over after the baby is born to see the baby and perhaps bring a gift. 

    Post # 6
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think having the shower a month before she’s due would be fine. It only gives you two weeks to plan but it doesn’t have to be that elaborate. Unless like the PP said – they have a ton of stuff. I think I’d prefer to deal with organizing and returning stuff if necessary before the baby was born. Plus they may be exhaused for a good while after the baby is born and not really feel up to having the shower.

    Post # 7
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    In my culture, vietnamese, I hear they prefer to have a party after the baby is born, so people can also see the baby. I would still like to have a baby shower before giving birth but I would just know that my parents probably wouldn’t be very interested in coming or giving gifts.

    Post # 8
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’ve only been to baby showers before the baby was born.  I’ve also heard of people doing a “Sip and See” after the baby is born, but that is basically for people to see the baby, not to receive presents.

    Post # 9
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’ve never heard of a shower after the baby is born, except for those times when the baby is ready before its parents were!  In that case, a lot of people gave their gifts sooner and just came to see the baby and enjoy the party a few weeks later. 

    But, I’d most definitely prefer the shower before the babies arrival.  I want everything purchased and in place before the baby’s arrival.  It’s really hard for me to wait to see what everyone will get us.  I keep feeling an impulse to make my list of things needed and start buying it all… which is really silly since I’m just now approaching 12 weeks. 

    Post # 10
    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think for a first time mom it might be best before.  I have loved going to baby showers when the baby is actually there but as far as practical goes it makes more sense beforehand.  I have my lists of everything I need at this point before the baby is born but since I’m not sure what all people will get at my shower I have my lists on hold so I can order anything left on my list after the shower.  Hopefully that will lead to less duplicates and less returns.  For my second kid I think I’ll just have a the baby is here party to introduce them to the world instead of a shower beforehand.

    Post # 11
    1014 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    For my sister’s first, we hosted a shower after my niece was born.  It gave everyone a chance to come and visit the baby about a month after the baby was born.  It was nice because it actually cut down a lot on random visitors during those first few weeks when they were trying to adapt to their new life/routine.  We had a library themed shower, where everyone brought their favorite children’s book and we all made personalized book plates to put in the books for the new baby.  My sister and brother in law really didn’t want a bunch of “baby stuff” as they had been passed down lots of things, and chose/purchased the new stuff they really wanted themselves.

    Post # 12
    638 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2007

    I had a shower before the baby was born local and a ‘sip & see’ in my home town when he was about 3 months old. The sip & see was informal open house style and a chance to show him off to my family and ‘Gramie’s friends’ 🙂

    Post # 14
    7082 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    @maryjane:  so I’m pretty anti-traditionalist… Usually, I would say it doesn’t matter, either would be fine…

    But there was something so unbearably wonderful about being surrounded by those that love me just a few weeks before our life changed forever.  I soaked up every single one of the well-wishes and used all that positive energy to channel into the birth process.  It helped me think of all the women who have gone before me and all the amazing people who would have my back in the good times and the bad.

    So in this case I’m a total traditionalist and vote before the birth!

    Post # 15
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    we always do work showers after so that everyone can see the baby. for my friends, it’s always before.

    Post # 16
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Due to my special circumstance, we’re having Wombat’s shower after his/her birth. Otherwise, we’d have it before.

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