(Closed) Baby Shower dilemma (to attend?)

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

If she’s not a close friend I probably wouldn’t go. That’s a very last minute invite and you’ve already made plans. I’d just send a nice card and wish her the best with the new baby.

Post # 4
2820 posts
Sugar bee

Do whatever you want.  I’ve had trouble giving a list of who to invite to the shower because there’s these acquaintances I don’t know what to do with.   I don’t want to seem like I’m just inviting someone for a gift but at the same time I don’t want to exclude someone who’s kinda a friend and them feel like I don’t think of them at all like a friend. 

Post # 5
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Hmmmm, I don’t think you should make the decision to go based on your hurt feelings, if that makes sense.  Is attending/not attending going to hurt your relationship with this person in future?  Do you have to socialize with her a lot or do you have a lot of friends in common that would make it uncomfortable for you if you don’t attend?  If so, I would say just go, because you’ll be saving yourself from more hurt feelings in the future.  If you are not close/hardly ever socialize/don’t see yourselves getting close in the future/etc… beg off with the excuse that you had already made other plans.  It’s the truth, so it’s not like you’re lying, and you can always send a small, practical gift.

Post # 6
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d RSVP “No” – just because you already have other plans and EVEN if you were suppose to get the first invitation, you didn’t. If it’s someone you’re not close to then don’t sweat it, I’m sure they don’t expect everyone invited to attend.

I skipped a wedding shower (that I didn’t really want to go to) because I never got an invite till a few days before, it ended up that I had to work but I wasn’t sad about having to decline.

Post # 7
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I probably would not go, but really the choice is up to you…a baby shower for the 3rd child, you were on the “B” list, and you already have plans. I think it is okay to pass and I agree with chexmixDC and say, send a card congratulating distant friend on the new addition to the family, but saying that unfortunately you already made plans. 


Post # 8
5153 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Maybe RSVP “no” but still send a gift & card?

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