(Closed) Baby Shower Dilemma – to have or not to have?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
1561 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

would any of your friends want to organize with your mom to throw a combined shower?

Post # 3
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you should have her go for it!  My family and DH’s family are scattered throughout the country.  My BMs threw me a (small) bridal shower with some friends, my mom, and my MIL in attendance.  It was great.  Don’t pass up this chance to celebrate with the people who ARE around you!  And then if there’s a work shower too, even more fun.  I actually think smaller showers are better because you can actually talk to all of the people there…. if there are 30 people in attendance, that’s not going to happen.

Post # 4
3919 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would have your mom contact your closest work friend and say that she is interested in throwing a shower, but knows there was cross over with invitees for the wedding shower and was hoping worker friend would like to cohost a baby shower with her.

then you get a shower, there’s no worry of double inviting people, and all is well. and 20 isn’t that small. My baby shower will have that many or less.

Post # 5
982 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had 12 people at my baby shower and it was a lovely lunch and I really enjoyed it. A small shower can be really nice, and if it is kept simple it shouldn’t be too much work or stress for anyone!

Post # 6
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have a small group of friends and had about 10-12 at my shower. It was a lot of fun and nice, because it didn’t last FOREVER, like it would have if there were a ton of people there.

I say go for it 🙂

Post # 7
1151 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i like the idea about your mom co-hosting with a close work friend. I chose not to have a shower because my bridal shower was a hot mess and i didn’t want a repeat of that. Since i didn’t have a shower a lot of my close family didn’t give us gifts for the baby. In fact my sister said since i wasn’t having a shower i was depriving her of the joy of giving gifts to her niece. I never thought that i had to attend a party or event to give someone a gift and often give gifts once baby arrives even if i wasn’t invited to the shower. But apparently my family felt that no shower=no gift. I still don’t regret my decision to not have a shower. 

Post # 9
7988 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe you could do a “sprinkle” and just invite people out for a nice lunch or something?

Post # 10
3341 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I don’t think the shower needs to be a big elaborate affair with lots of people and lots of money spent on it.  Honestly, getting together with just a few close friends and family to celebrate the baby coming sounds great to me.

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