(Closed) Baby Shower Dilemma – to have or not to have?

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

would any of your friends want to organize with your mom to throw a combined shower?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you should have her go for it!  My family and DH’s family are scattered throughout the country.  My BMs threw me a (small) bridal shower with some friends, my mom, and my Mother-In-Law in attendance.  It was great.  Don’t pass up this chance to celebrate with the people who ARE around you!  And then if there’s a work shower too, even more fun.  I actually think smaller showers are better because you can actually talk to all of the people there…. if there are 30 people in attendance, that’s not going to happen.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would have your mom contact your closest work friend and say that she is interested in throwing a shower, but knows there was cross over with invitees for the wedding shower and was hoping worker friend would like to cohost a baby shower with her.

then you get a shower, there’s no worry of double inviting people, and all is well. and 20 isn’t that small. My baby shower will have that many or less.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had 12 people at my baby shower and it was a lovely lunch and I really enjoyed it. A small shower can be really nice, and if it is kept simple it shouldn’t be too much work or stress for anyone!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have a small group of friends and had about 10-12 at my shower. It was a lot of fun and nice, because it didn’t last FOREVER, like it would have if there were a ton of people there.

I say go for it 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i like the idea about your mom co-hosting with a close work friend. I chose not to have a shower because my bridal shower was a hot mess and i didn’t want a repeat of that. Since i didn’t have a shower a lot of my close family didn’t give us gifts for the baby. In fact my sister said since i wasn’t having a shower i was depriving her of the joy of giving gifts to her niece. I never thought that i had to attend a party or event to give someone a gift and often give gifts once baby arrives even if i wasn’t invited to the shower. But apparently my family felt that no shower=no gift. I still don’t regret my decision to not have a shower. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe you could do a “sprinkle” and just invite people out for a nice lunch or something?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I don’t think the shower needs to be a big elaborate affair with lots of people and lots of money spent on it.  Honestly, getting together with just a few close friends and family to celebrate the baby coming sounds great to me.

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