Post # 1
okay, so I KNOW this is going to sound extremely selfish and I have tried not to think about it but it bothers me and I can’t seem to quit thinking about it so I am asking fellow bees to just smack me 🙂 YES I am whining.
EVERY employee that has had a baby here at our office has been given a baby shower. I mean everyone including men. I have been with the company over 6 years and helped with the majority of those. When I say every, we have an office of 25 people and 7 of those have been given showers. High percentage. Not one mention of anyone having a baby shower for us and I am just really hurt about it. I know I shouldn’t expect it, but when everyone else gets one and I don’t it just makes me wonder if all the work I have done the last 6 years is worth anything. I know this is selfish but I just wonder if others would be hurt by this too? Being hormonal doesn’t help me in not overanalyzing everything! 🙁
Post # 3
Are you absolutely positive that the plan isn’t to throw you a surprise shower? I think I’d be upset too, if I were the only one who wasn’t given a shower. But don’t rule it out just yet.
Post # 4
I would be upset too!
When is your last day of work though? The last shower we threw at my work was a surprise and we did it on her last day!
It still could be in the works!!!
Post # 5
my office threw me a surprise shower the day i was leaving! mind you i went off unexpectedly a month before I was due, so it was a rush, but it was a great last minute shower! How long before you leave your work to have your baby? dont’ give up hope yet!
Post # 6
The others were given around 6 weeks before because it was everyone’s first shower so I would have expected around then. My last day is around September 9th, so maybe it will be a surprise. Thanks for the input. I will try not to think about it till it gets closer. It is just hard I guess.
Post # 7
Aww, dont get too upset yet!! It could still happen and you have time! I am sure they are trying to plan it as a surprise and wait until you are ready for maternity leave!
Post # 8
Like others have said, I’ll bet it’s a surprise! Keep us updated. 🙂
Post # 9
I hope they’re planning on making it a surprise. I’m pretty much the one-woman events coordinator at my office too. Always the one who remembers to pick up the cards and birthday cakes, and take up a collection for wedding/baby gifts, so it happens fairly frequently that MY stuff gets skipped.
I would maybe start mentioning casually that “wow, my last day is just coming up so fast” or confide in a close coworker that you’re wondering if anything’s going to happen without you there to plan it.
Post # 10
that would upset me too…but like others said, don’t rule out that it might be a surprise or they might just hold it closer to your last day. they just might not be as on top of planning as you have been in the past 🙂
Post # 11
Thanks everyone for the thoughts. I am atleast glad to know I am not totally crazy. I will keep you all posted as it gets closer. Hopefully the hormones are just causing me to overanalyze.
Thanks everyone, it is so good to have a place to go to vent sometimes where people understand. As much as my husband is supportive, he sometimes doesn’t understand things like this.
Post # 12
Very possibly a surprise! Sit tight! 🙂 I can see why you would be upset considering everyone else has had one, but I doubt they would forget you (esp. since you have planned so many others).
Post # 13
I felt similar when I got married. Everyone at my work had been given baby and bridal showers, and then no one did a bridal shower for me!
It’s normal to feel left out, especially if you did a lot of helping out for the other 7 showers. Here’s hoping that someone will get one together for you!
Post # 14
I totally understand; the same thing happened to me. It sucks. I really hope they pull together and give you a last minute party, though!
Post # 15
I agree with @SapphireSun:. If you are the one to usually get the ball rolling when it comes to office events, sometimes you just have to remind someone else that you won’t be available to plan your own baby shower.
Post # 16
I’m sorry you haven’t gotten a shower yet from your co-workers. As PPs said, maybe it is coming and will be a great surprise. But if for whatever reason it doesn’t happen, know that you are in good company. My co-workers didn’t throw me a baby shower though I’ve contributed to several throughout my 8 year tenure with the company. Also, usually when a co-worker has a baby (male or female) a sign gets made and posted in their office with the baby’s name and birth statistics. I didn’t even get that. It is what it is but know that sometimes people don’t realize that little things like that can make a difference to someone. Heres hoping you get a fun shower with your co-workers!