(Closed) Baby Shower Drama, End of friendship. (super long)

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Post # 2
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Busy bee

TLDR version please!

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Isilme :  Sorry, not reading all that. People can ask, demand, and expect whatever they want but they can’t make you do it. The more you say No, the easier it gets.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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Isilme :  woah. Jenni is crazy. Glad you’ve removed yourself from that hot mess. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Wow, this truly sounds like a babyzilla disaster. Looking at the bright side, at least 4 people can now remove 1 highly toxic person from their lives.

Sorry all that effort went to waste though.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

Wow I cant believe I read all of that. 

Honestly, it sounds like you werent close to them anyways. Good riddance. 

That said, NO venue should cut you out after you’ve paid a deposit. I would probably demand it back if they were going to do that. 

So basically, it sucks that you went through so much effort, but seriously, you should be glad to get rid of them. They all sound awful. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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Isilme :  I have never heard of this, to throw a party for a person you do not even like or have a wish to be friends with.  It does not seem normal.  Also I can see in the story where you make a “snark” comment to her, or your husband does. Both you and her are provoking, like hitting each one with a stick. Maybe you have a need for a giant flameball for the friendship to go off with? It seems like it, otherwise why agree with doing it? It is fine if so. Some time a flameball end is like a release for a person. Me,  I never believe in cake credit, if you make me a cake I will eat it and smile at you. Try and reposess if you like! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I read most of it, and then just couldn’t. I tried though. Very “wordy”.lol 

The whole time while reading it though, I was thinking “you get to choose the people that you surround yourself with”. I know it sucks when you have history, but no one can force you to do something, and I for one would never want to have that much negativity around me.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

It doesn’t sound like you were ever friends…

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Wow that sounds exhausting. And it sounds like you inserted yourself into the drama with open eyes. This is probably an unpopular opinion, but did you get so involved in the first place? When you don’t like someone and know they are full of drama, isn’t it easier  to show up to whatever event with a big smile and nice present? I understand needing to be pleasant to fit into a social circle, but I don’t understand putting to much effort into someone who you don’t care about. 

 

ETA: I feel like not showing up is going to create more drama, catty gossip, and trouble to attending with a small gift and warm congratulations. Don’t give Jenni more fuel. Once the event is over, start distancing yourself. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

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Isilme :  Jesus christ all I saw was a block of text, a novel.

Why did you even do this for them?  I would have said no the moment she made a facebook group for herself.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I did read your post. Yes, you are best off extricating yourself from this entire situation. I’d suggest trying to get your deposit back since the business refuses to talk to you, which is BIZARRE.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just no. back away. A huge blowout baby shower of over 100+ people invited and a demanding mom to be? Drop off a gift card and be done, future cakes be damned.

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