(Closed) Baby shower Etiquette

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Would you have a second baby shower for same gender as first child?
    Yes, it wouldn't hurt. : (37 votes)
    28 %
    No, that's rude. : (83 votes)
    63 %
    Depends (Explain) : (12 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    4354 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t no, but I wouldn’t even if it were a different gender. In my area/social circle you only have a shower for the first baby.

    I guess I should add that it would be more acceptable if the second child was a different father (since his family might want to throw one), or if there is many years between the existing children and the new baby.

    Post # 4
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    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I don’t know, I have a ton of clothes and everything else. I don’t really need anything now. My mom insisted that I at least do a “sprinkle”. Whatever that is…. I am thinking it is much smaller then an actual shower or something. So I might do something like that. I have been invited to plenty of second baby showers and never thought it was rude. I love to buy baby stuff and it is probably just widely accepted in my area.

    Post # 5
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    979 posts
    Busy bee

    I’ve never heard of having a second baby shower at all.  

    I had a girl the first time – then a boy – I sold all my girl stuff on Ebay and took the money to buy boy clothes.

     

    Post # 6
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If we have another of either gender we won’t have another baby shower.  I think they’re for first time moms only, but maybe that’s just my region/social circle?

    Post # 7
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    1846 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    In my family we throw “sprinkles” not showers for second babies. It’s basically the same thing but with less people and less elaborate gifts. Generally the couple wouldn’t register, it’s just close family buying essentials for the new baby?

    Ever baby deserves to be celebrated IMO.

    Post # 8
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    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @FortiesFlare:  Thank you that clears it up a bit, I wasn’t really sure what a “sprinkle” was exactly. I will have to google it I guess.

    Post # 10
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    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Hmm, I misread this.  I think if it’s a different gender, it’s totally understandable.  The same gender, not so sure…

    Post # 11
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    3830 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    First time moms in theory dont have anything, not bottles, clothes, etc etc. Second time moms you have all that so you dont need a shower. If you do have one its seen as basically a gift grab because you dont need any of the stuff

    Post # 12
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    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @figgnewton:  I actually did go to something like that now that I think about it. They did not call it a sprinkle though. They said it was just a get together to celebrate the new baby. They mainly just wanted gift cards if we felt like gifting anything and they had a diaper raffle. No registry because they said they had everything they needed. People still brought clothes and stuff though, like me :).

    Post # 13
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    2951 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    This would just seem a little gift grabby to me as I alway buy for the showers and then again when the baby is born. To me a baby shower is for your first child only. 

    Post # 14
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    8668 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We’re having a get together tomorrow to celebrate my cousins’s second baby (same gender). It’s not a traditional shower, we’re all going to a fun Japanese restaurant with a hibachi grill. Gifts are not required although I’m sure many will give her something anyway.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’ve never heard of anyone having a baby shower after the first child – you have a shower with baby #1 because as a first-time mom you have nothing. So, no, I’d never have a shower for baby #2 or onwards, no matter the genders.

    Post # 16
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    2715 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

     @Swizzle:  +1

    I wouldn’t have a shower for a 2nd baby regardless of gender.  It seems gift grabby.  I actually didn’t realize people did this until I came to the Bee.

     

     

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