Post # 31
My kids are 4.5 years apart and different genders. I had a great big shower with my son and a work shower. With my daughter, I worked at a new place, and none of my coworkers were at my first shower. My coworkers threw me a small little office shower. I mostly got baby clothes. I would not have wanted a big shower but there hadn’t been a baby at work in a long time and the ladies in the office were excited so I did graciously accept having a small one from them.
Post # 32
My understanding of a shower, is that it is planned by someone other than the expectant mother… so if someone would like to throw a shower for someone else, no matter which baby, I see no issue with it.
I guess it is a tad ‘tacky’ if the mother is throwing her own showers.
I, personally, am not comfortable with these events, so I forwent a wedding shower, and I would do the same for a child. But, I won’t judge others for hosting/having showers and I would gladly attend if someone thought to include me in their special event.
Post # 33
I don’t think it’s tacky. I see nothing wrong with celebrating each new baby.
Post # 34
I think a baby shower is to help you start your life as a parent, so it’s definitely not necessary to have multiple showers. There is nothing wrong with hosting a sip and see or another non-gift giving event after the baby is born to celebrate its birth. Obviously people can give a gift if they want to, but are not obligated to do so.
Why don’t you just decline throwing your friend a shower? I think it’s tacky that your friend wants one.
Post # 35
I have no problem with a 2nd party where they do a diaper raffle, small presents and presents are even optional. However, I had a friend that had THREE yes three showers. I could not get over how gift grabby it was. To be fair her third shower was small and they didn’t expect everyone to come. I think she should have done a meet the baby party with diapers as gifts. It was so wasteful in my opinion.
Post # 36
- Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.
Where I come from, people usually have one for every child. Regardless of closeness in age.
Post # 37
I definitely don’t think it’s tacky. If someone close to me was having a second baby, I’d want to celebrate with her all over again! I think you can easily specify “no gifts” on the invitation. For those guests who really want to bring a gift, they are sure to ask the grandparents or close friends who can relay any items that the new baby might actually need. And you could always do one of those showers where all the guests bring a book for the baby! You can never have too many books while the kids are growing up!
Post # 38
Not tacky at all. I had four showers for all 4 babies….my family believes in celebrating each pregnancy no matter what the sex and how far apart they are. As do I. Now a shower that you have to pay to go to, tacky.
Post # 39
Yes just yes. The teacher I work with just had her fourth last year. And her mother threw her a huge shower. She did not need to buy anything for the baby except maybe diapers and formula. She was 37 and her husband 42, they don’t believe in using any form of birth control and were lucky they only ended up with four. But you should not depend on other people to give you the stuff you need for your off spring.
I do agree all babies should be celebrated. But there are many ways to celebrate a new life other then throwing and party and demanding gifts.
Post # 40
Nothing wrong with a party. I mean, we all just buy stuff off the registry so if the second time mom has all the big stuff handled, she can register for smalk things and such or not have one at all.
Who the hell am I to tell anyone that anything is tacky? Who the hell made up the rules in the first place?
Party on second, third, even fourth time moms!
Post # 41
I don’t think having a shower is depending on other people to give you the stuff you need. Every person I know who has had a baby and a shower still needed to buy TONS of things for their children. Also I know a shower is supposed to be where people bring presents, but it’s not really DEMANDING a gift either. Where I’m from a shower is just a party to celebrate the baby, and people bring gifts because they WANT to because if they are going it meanes they care for the person having the baby. I love my friends and their children and am always happy to contribute something for their future children.
Post # 42
I’m not saying that people who have baby showers don’t need to buy anything else for there children. But in this women’s case I was talking about she was depending on everyone else to give her stuff because she could not afford the children she had already. I want children, I have no problem with people haveing childern or haveing showers. I’m just saying you should not have a shower expecting people to buy you everything you need.
Post # 43
You said she only needed diapers and formula anyways, so I’m not sure I understand why you think they are depending on people to give them stuff they need. You kind of contradicted yourself.