Post # 46
beebee1983 : I have vented on here when things have gotten bad. That doesnt reflect the whole, picture of course. I think many moms get some bit of postpartum blues. For me socializing is energizing and I feel better being around people so thinking with my busy schedule planning ahead may help!
Post # 47
I like the idea of just having a party, not a shower. Also, I read in one of the previous posts about some of the background stuff going on in your life, and I hope your husband becomes a better partner for your sake and for your kids’ sake.
Post # 48
No. My friends threw a shower for my first baby. Then 8 years later I had another baby with my second husband and his family threw me a small sprinkle with only their relatives. It was EIGHT years later and their family was celebrating my DH’s first baby- so I think it was a little different. We just had our third and we didn’t have anything.
Post # 49
I think it’s fine to have a shower or party even if it is your 6th child. If someone doesn’t want to come, they won’t. For those recommending not calling the event a shower, wouldn’t guests still bring a gift for the child? I’ve always brought gifts for my friends’ kids when I meet them for the first time even if I’m just stopping for a coffee.
Post # 50
Nope nope and nope
1shower for 1st baby and NO MORE showers. Thrown by you or a friend. Invite em over for some snacks/bbq chat but no invite for a baby surprise. 100ing the eyes rolling out of my head if I got that invite.
Post # 51
Traditional baby showers are for the first. But there is an exception. If a close group of women friends or work friends get together on their own and were moved to do something very low key and intimate, fine. Especially if the group in question has not attended a previous shower for you. But you would have absolutely nothing to do with something like that. You don’t make a guest list and would not have a registry.
Also, a shower is not the only reason people give baby presents. If someone is close to me, I will send a gift for each baby with or without a shower.
Post # 52
I agree with majority of people. A shower traditionally is for your first baby to receive gifts that you will need to raise this baby – like clothes , change table, nappies etc etc , and after your 6th child I’m sure you’ll have all you need. Celebrate with your family but don hav a shower
Post # 53
Really? Don’t be greedy. You should have stopped after the first shower.
Post # 54
theresabow : I get coming on here to vent but you literally said in one of your PPs that your husband threatened to KILL you if you went on vacation alone….
Post # 55
I’m sorry that some bees are choosing to bring up your past posts etc. There is no need for that. Unfortunately, WB has a limit on posts that can be deleted. Given that you have stated you suffer from depression, I would hope that fellow bees would be sympathetic regarding your personal life, even if you made it public.
Regarding the baby shower, a gathering after the baby is born seems more appropriate. A shower is not a gift grabber event. My whole family has the means to buy whatever they desire, and we still choose to celebrate. Even if we put no gifts, they’d still bring them. A nice catered gathering or bbq would be nice after your child is here.
Side note: I’ve noticed many of the bees with unnecessary comments have a trend of doing the same to other bees.
Keep your head up, you’re loved, and I hope whatever way you choose to celebrate that it goes perfectly!
Post # 56
You are not to get showers for any kid past your first.
I would not go. I would not give you any gift. This is very tacky.
Post # 57
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
I would do a sip and see. A shower for someone with 5 children already would leave a bad taste in my mouth, unless the 6th was like 10 years later or something and they got rid of all the baby stuff.
Post # 58
Please don’t do this, it’s so tacky.
Post # 59
Yeah, a sip and see is a good idea if you have an easy recovery and are up to hosting! No one’s going to expect a fancy meal, do something simple. Maybe the friend who wants to throw you a shower can cook a little something for the party instead, and you can get a birthday cake 🙂 And then people will get to meet baby at the party.
Ladies, WTF? OP asked a question. Real fun to all gang up on one pregnant woman, ain’t it?