(Closed) Baby shower… for a grandma? (plus workplace shower vent)

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 16
555 posts
Busy bee

justwondering2015:  oh god hell nah! That sounds obnoxious and totally out of line! I can *understand baby showers for moms (if it is the first baby), but grandma??? Hell No! What do they expect that you give grandma a gift and she hands it down to her daughter or daughter in law??? People are getting nuts with all these stupid celebrations (diaper parties, gender reveals parties blabla)

Post # 17
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

That’s so weird. I am currently pregnant and I get pissed every time I see someone write “congratulations, sonia!” to my mum pertaining to her becoming a grandmother soon. Like no. I am the one who is pregnant. If it went so far as to turn in to a ‘grandma shower’ that’d just make me snap to be honest.

Post # 18
8834 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

justwondering2015:  Hmmmm I would be feeling a bit miffed too. It all sounds VERY over the top.

Post # 19
7417 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wouldn’t be okay with the grandma shower. Might have to have a very important meeting at that exact time, so sorry, can’t go to the shower!

but OP you have to get over the fact that you didn’t have a shower because the past is gone. Let it go.

Post # 20
3870 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

justwondering2015:  That all sounds exhausting. I worked at a company last year and, though they had many showers/parties for other employees, because I worked in a small branch about an hour south, I was never thrown a bridal shower (though another girl got one) or a birthday party (even though we were constantly invited to the other birthday parties and given half days to attend). Honestly, it was hard not to feel childish, but when nothing was said/done about my bridal shower, I didn’t think much of it because a bridal shower is a huge expense, but my birthday? The day before my birthday was another co-workers birthday and there was a party for her, we sang happy birthday, etc. and nada for me the next day, not even a mention during our morning phone meeting. It was kind of “out of sight, out of mind” as far as we were concerned. It was just another thing that contributed to me feeling as if I wasn’t a valued member of their team (this and maybe fifteen other examples I could give). 

In my new job, I will literally never receive one because I work for a landscape architect and a landscaping company, so 99% of my coworkers are men, except for the Lawn Maint. manager and she sure as shit wouldn’t organize a baby shower/birthday party for me haha. 

Sorry that happened, Bee, I know it sucks.

Post # 21
9586 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Your workplace sounds exhausting. But yeah, grandma showers are just wtf. I’m sorry you’re not the one having the baby!

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