Post # 1
I know that generally the rule of thumb is no shower for someones second baby but here’s my situation.
My Maid/Matron of Honor recently announced her second pregnancy (SO exciting!!!), and I want to throw her a shower. Her first baby was born in 2006 when she was living in another city, so it’s not like she still has any baby stuff kicking around, and it won’t be the same group of friends that she had for baby 1. To be honest I’m not even sure if she had a shower for baby #1.
Do y’all think it would be ok to go ahead with planning something? Wee one won’t make an appearance till May so the shower likely wouldn’t be until March or April, but it never hurts to plan ahead a bit.
Post # 2
MrsWhitneyC2015: I think because it was so long ago and this is a different group of friends, its totally appropriate. I know a woman who has a 15 and 7 year old and she just had a baby shower because she’s pregnant! Clearly, so much time has passed but she still needs all the baby stuff!
Post # 3
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MrsWhitneyC2015: I think every baby is cause for celebration! It’s a wonderful and exciting thing, and like you said, it’s not like she’s got all her old baby stuff anymore anyway!
Post # 4
Normally I’d say no way, but in this case, it sounds okay? I would just check with her to make sure she’s comfortable. I am pregnant with my first and not having a shower since I moved out of state and away from my family and friends. I can imagine if I’m living closer to them later, they may want to do the same thing for round 2. For me, I will already have all the big stuff that was mostly purchased by me and the grandparents, so it might be pointless, but if she’s starting from scratch it makes sense.
Post # 5
In my family we have a baby shower for every baby! We’ve sort of changed the “tradition” around a little. We have the shower after the baby is born so that the baby can attend the “party” so that everyone can meet the child. Our family is huuuge (my Dad is 1 of 8 children) So this is a much easier way for the new parents to show off the new baby without slews and slews of people showing up at their house for weeks on end.
My aunts make all the food and we play all the normal little games. Everyone brings a little gift or pitches in for something big. It’s a fun get together for us all as well! 🙂
I think in your situation you can definitely throw a shower for your friend! And how thoughful of you! 🙂
Post # 6
This is one of the cases where it makes total sense, it’s been such a long time between children. Go for it!
I disagree that every baby is worth celebrating though, at least not in THAT WAY. I guess unofficially I’d feel it was greedy for someone to hold more than 1 baby shower in a 5 year period.
Post # 7
I had one for my second, mostly because they were 6 years apart and we hadn’t kept his baby stuff. But also because my friends love me and they just wanted to. So I say throw her a shower! But I’m not one of those who sees baby showers as greedy so I would say go for it either way. 🙂
Post # 8
I think your logic makes sense, I’m sure it would help her out. I’m usually anti-second showers but in this case I’d be in.
Post # 9
MrsWhitneyC2015: One of my friends had a baby shower for her 2nd child, who is not even a year yet. Her first child was born in 2005, so there was a HUGE gap in between them. I think for this reason, it’s totally fine since she hasn’t had any baby stuff sitting around the house unlike those that may go a few years in between children.
Post # 10
if you want to throw it, throw it. it is not greedy on the mama’s part because she isn’t planning it or asking for it.
Post # 11
I didnt know there was a rule of thumb for not throwing a baby shower for your second child…My sister has three kids, 1-2 years apart and each time had a baby shower. Its a celebration for the little one, I think its a cute idea. What happens if you had a boy first and then a girl? The little girl doesnt get a baby shower? That sounds unfair…
Post # 12
do you think she would like it? I’m anti-second shower myself but can understand that it’s a different city, big gap, all that. I only ask because there is no circumstance where I would want someone to throw me a second baby shower and would be horrified if I found out one was planned for me.
Post # 13
Since they’re so far apart I think it would be fine.
littlebar: around here people will usually have a “sprinkle” to celebrate a second or third baby that is close in age to their first. Usually it’s a get together at a restaurant, no gifts required (although people usually bring useful things like diapers, soap, books etc). It seems kind of odd to have another big shower right away, since you should still have all that stuff.
Post # 14
In my family we celebrate every baby. The second is usually a smaller occasion though. For my second we just had a BBQ with cake and small presents. It was really nice. Since your friend’s second is later and away from where the first one was I’d say go all out!
Post # 15
I think it would be fine! But I’m from an area where first-baby showers and subsequent-baby “sprinkles” are the norm and don’t ruffle any feathers. If your friend is uncomfortable with a traditional shower, consider a more general baby party/BBQ style event.