(Closed) Baby shower for second kid?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 31
401 posts
Helper bee

HappySky7:  I don’t understand how not having a shower for a second time mom would condemn a second child to hand me downs. If you want your child to have new clothes, buy them yourself. 

It doesn’t make someone cheap if they don’t want to bankroll their friends’ life choices. 

Post # 32
1084 posts
Bumble bee

msu1220:  hmmm…..I don’t have a child, and neither do any of my friends, so to be honest, I’ve never been to a baby shower…..besides the lunch-co-worker-baby showers-in-the-office (and they get hosted whether it is baby 1 or baby 4). I just always assumed every baby gets a baby shower because every baby deserves to be celebrated? I guess not…..


everyone goes to target, Walmart or tjmaxx and gets something for $10 or less, no registry, just practical things….I don’t see how thats breaking anybodys bank. I always attend and guve a gift during the lunches showera for by coworkers. Despite not knowing some of them so well and regardless if it’s baby 3 or 4.

Post # 33
2699 posts
Sugar bee

I had showers for babies 1,3 and 4. The shower for Baby 1 and the shower for Baby 3 were 10 years apart so that’s understandable. They were also in different states. I’d moved by the time I had Baby #3 so they included different groups of friends. The shower for Baby #4 was 2.5 years after Baby #3, thrown by the same people as Baby #3 and included the same friends that attended the previous shower. They threw this last one because it was my first boy. All of my showers were surprises and I was not registered anywhere. I did not expect or want these parties although I did very much appreciate them all. So if it was in poor taste, is it a reflection of the MOM necessarily? Showers themselves are GIFTS (that we don’t usually ask for) so when we say poor taste, what are we referring to?

Post # 34
4856 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


violet21293:  so was it bankrolling their life choices for the first baby? that was their life choice too presumably. Do babies not ruin things? the purpose of the gift is to welcome the baby. Registering makes it easier to know what would be most useful. The parents get discounts for buying things off the registry as well. seriously a card or a 10$ onsie? Can’t skip a coffee for a day? That’s cheap.  

Post # 35
1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had a shower for my second baby. It was another boy, but there was a 6 year age gap and we had gotten rid of everything we had. I wasn’t sure if I wanted another shower, but my best friends wanted to throw one for me. It was smaller than my first with just close friends and family but it was nice. Thank goodness my friends aren’t as judgemental as some of you here. OP, if you don’t want to send her a gift then you don’t have to.  

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