(Closed) Baby shower for third kid?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: is this in poor taste?

    Yes but you need to go and bring a gift anyway

    Yes and you don't have to participate in going or gifting

    No it's not tacky, go w/ a gift

    No it's not tacky, but you're not obligated to go or gift

  • Post # 62
    255 posts
    Helper bee

    I don’t think it’s a big deal.  It’s been a long time since they had a baby.  Having a shower is mainly about getting together with friends and family, and having a fun party where you can take pictures to show you’re kid when they’re older that they were loved and celebrated before they were even born.  At least that’s my take on it.  I had one for each daughter.

    Post # 63
    7552 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    To each their own. I probably wouldn’t go though, just because you don’t want to. There’s no obligation. 

    Post # 64
    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Hum. I’ve never heard of only having a shower for the first kid. I’ve been to several showers for the third or fourth kid and didn’t think twice about bringing a gift. I usually brought gifts that they could ALWAYS use more of, like onesies or their brand choice of diapers, along with a congratulatory card. I can usually find something cheap but useful (like, under $10), and let their moms/sisters/best friends spoil them with the good stuff.

    Post # 65
    239 posts
    Helper bee

    I would go!! especially because of the time gap since her last child.. maybe get a smaller gift though:)

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    @NauticalDisaster:  you’d be suprised!! In Montreal I’ve been to quite a few showers that were registered for 😛

    Post # 66
    555 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

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    @tksjewelry:  I love the term sprinkle! 


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    @chillinchillin:  Given how much time it’s been, I don’t see it in poor taste. It’s been 8 years!

    Post # 67
    3080 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

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    @Misswhowedding:  I just got invited to one and the husband is throwing it for his wife. And they just wrote my first name on the invite and didn’t send it to my house, sent it to someone else’s to give to me. 

    Post # 68
    1692 posts
    Bumble bee

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    @barbie86:  I think you are reading in meaning that is not there: I did not say that those who decline shower invitations are lacking in kindness and generosity; but that it is the hostess’s duty to limit her invitations to those whose kindness and generosity aligns with her own — people who also want to shower the recipient lest she be perceived as extorting gifts on the recipient’s behalf.

    Your kindness and generosity, obviously, comes in a form that is not aligned with the desire to participate in showers. No need to take offense at that.


    Post # 69
    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    To each their own.  With the age and difference in gender it really doesn’t look awful IMO. 


    However, I have been invited to/ heard of showers for people who are having childern a few years apart/same gender.  To me, it is gift grabby and I choose not to participate. 

    Post # 70
    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I think it’s fun! I also love baby showers though. I agree with PPs given the fact that it had been pretty much a decade since the last kid it’s not super surprising.

    I don’t think they’re having it because they want people to buy them baby necessities, I think it’s more the fun celebration of having a new baby in a home that hasn’t had one in quite some time. 

    If I were them I wouldn’t register, and make it more of a cute party than a gift thing. I think close friends/family ought to bring a small gift to celebrate, but it shouldn’t be the focus.

    Post # 71
    8482 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I dont see the big deal. After 8 and 12 years, I highly doubt they have any baby things right now. And even if they did, some things would be expired by now (car seat, maybe crib.)

    Post # 72
    3828 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Anything past the first child is just a gift grab in my opinion. 

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