(Closed) Baby shower – Future Mom doesn’t want SIL to host – help!

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Host the shower together. 

 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Agree-Host the shower “together”. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

See if she’d be up for you helping host it. Send her a couple ideas, and then just ask if you can take the reins on food/games/whatever you think she’ll totally bail on. Then give her something you know she can handle or something that your friend wouldn’t be bummed about if it wasn’t there.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Can’t your friend just say that you’ve already started to organize one and but she’s sure SIL can help?

My husband’s aunt wanted to host one but I told her “No” because one of my girlfriends was already planning one (plus she wanted to do it at a really inconvient time for us).

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@redherring: Ugg that sucks. Perhaps offer to “help” the SIL for your aforementioned reasons (you wanted to do something to thank her) – chances are if she’s a big flake and can’t afford to pay for things you’d end up planning & paying for most of it anyway.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@redherring: Perfect, tell her to figure out food, if she’s super flaky it’ll take up all her time anyway and you can do everything else how you want it :)..

ETA: so I just re-read it and realized how mean that sounds, but hey, you do what ya gotta do.

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