- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
I’m 25 weeks pregnant. I have no clue what is being planned for my baby shower ,but today there is a problem that I got pulled into unfortunately Apparently my mother in law and my mom are not communicating and using my husband to communicate back and forth to eachother about the baby shower. Within the mix of this I noticed he was upset He didn’t give any details ,but just said both of our parents need to communicate about this shower and they are stressing him out.
I agreed and said I was sorry both of them aren’t communicating. Well I was talking to my sister and I got a whole different story. My Mother-In-Law got upset because my mom chose a place to have the shower without asking her. I originally told my mother that my Mother-In-Law would love to plan the party and my mom said that was ok. I guess along the lines there was miscommunication for some reason and my sister got all upset with me and told me her, my mom and my other sister were hosting the shower.
So now my Mother-In-Law and my mom think they are hosting a baby shower.
My sister had the nerve to say this was all my fault, that my mom is going to be upset because she bought a bunch of things for the shower, that she is so excited for the shower, she also had the nerve to say no wonder why they are both mad at each other because YOU said that your Mother-In-Law can host the shower. My sister also said ,well that isn’t right because she isn’t my family and why I would think her hosting would be a good idea.
I explained to her it is my Mother-In-Law first grandchild and I thought it would only be fair because my mom already hosted a baby shower for my one sister . My Mother-In-Law has two boys, my husband and his brother who don’t have gf. I didn’t know etiquette for a baby shower and she made me feel so guilty. I just wanted to cry when she was saying this. She told me now I need to tell my own mother she isn’t hosting and that they spent a bunch of money on this shower.
I feel so guilty and she made me feel that I’m horrible because I’m not having my mom hosting my shower. She made me feel worthlessness ,but if I would have known they were spending money I would have said something. I didn’t know until two hours ago. I’ve been crying since then because I don’t want to upset my mom or my Mother-In-Law. I’m due next March so obviously the baby shower will be sometime next year.
So now my Mother-In-Law and my mom think they are hosting my baby shower. I’m going to talk to them both tomorrow ,but I feel so guilty and stupid. I know they will both be upset and that’s what kills me. I just don’t understand why they both just host or why they cannot communicate with eachother . That’s all I knew until learned the extra details is that they didn’t communicate with each other. I have so much anxiety with this and I’m so upset.
My husband is upset because both of them do not communicate with eachother and somehow I think that is the problem too. I’m so upset and I’m in tears writing this. My husband has had enough with both of them and he is getting Fed up.
Is this seriously my fault? Is it my mom’s and Mother-In-Law fault for not communicating?? I don’t know how long they have been planning this. I don’t know any details.
Any advice on what to do and say? I’m very upset with myself that I cannot think. Please any advice would be Appreciated.